Don’t get caught in the polarization.

Posted on 13 November 2020

In Pema Chodron’s book, Welcoming the Unwelcome, she offers a practice she calls “Just like me.”  All you have to do is look out at the world and notice people. With each person, you find something that you can pretty confidently identify is just like you. For example:

Just like me, this person wants to be right.
Just like me, this person wants to survive.
Just like me, this person loses it sometimes.
Just like me this person gets hungry and tired.
Just like me, this person wants to be happy.
Just like me, this person doesn’t want to be humiliated.

The point of the practice is to dissolve our separation, feel our connection and reduce the distance we put between us.

There is great polarization in our world. We can’t avoid that fact. But we can seek to BE something other than polarized. We can start seeing each other beyond our normal filters, and look first for how we are the same.

This practice doesn’t change the other. It changes me.

It returns me to my heart and from there I can perceive a different way forward.

We have some big challenges ahead of us as a nation. You, too, may have some big challenges ahead of you in your life.  Notice when you’re caught in patterns of separation and conflict. And DON’T try to solve your problems from that state. Soften into your heart. Feel your way forward. Innovative solutions and easy pathways are birthed from there.

I have hope for us. And I have hope for you.

If you could use a partner in any of this work, book some sessions. I’m here for you.




This gem of a book by Pema Chodron is our November read in the Books That Change Me book club on the Practical Mystics Playground.  Come join the club and discuss it with me.

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