Every so often, re-evaluate

Posted on 12 September 2021

It’s good to slow down every so often to re-evaluate.

Where am I headed? Am I on course? Do I still want what I have been aiming for?

If you do, great! Tap back into that vision. Feel again what you’re excited to be creating. Let it energize you.

If you don’t, that’s good information too. Sometimes we’ve changed so much we have new desires. Sometimes we’ve reached where we wanted to be, and it’s time for a new vision. It’s important to honor that.

It’s always wise to slow down enough to listen within before you plot a new course. Ask yourself some big questions about what you truly want and truly value. Listen to your heart and your spirit.

You might need to shake off some negativity and step out of some limiting points of view. You might need to remind yourself that you have a right to grow, change and reach for more. We need to do this, for ourselves and our world — stay agile, be resilient, dream better dreams.

Slowing down to get clear and aligned, actually speeds things up. The more we are clear and aligned, the easier our path unfolds.

Sit with your journal and do some visioning, or join me next weekend for the Fall Visioning Workshop I’m offering via zoom. If it’s hard for you to sit and focus, you’re not alone! The energy of a guide and a group can help a lot! Mostly, I’m excited to offer this workshop as an opportunity to step out of default mode into choice, out of stagnancy into new life. If you need that, come play!

There’s always outer work to do to create something new in your life, but the inner work comes first.

To that end, I’m here for you.


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Three ways you can work with me…

Posted on 29 August 2021

It’s back to school season for students, and perhaps for you, there’s a sense of new focus and groundedness coming in too. Are you ready to engage again with some of those aspects of your life you might have been putting aside this summer?

When you’re ready for sessions, here are three ways you can work with me one-on-one:

You can schedule Coaching Sessions at your convenience. Talk through all that’s up, from business to relationships to your heart’s desires. Together we look at it all —sometimes strategizing, sometimes problem solving, but always seeking your clarity and inner alignment so that the actions you will take unfold with ease. Purchase a series of 4 sessions for $500.

You can commit to monthly Spirit Sessions with me to tend to your spiritual growth. We sink deep in these sessions, listening, healing, following the energy and allowing higher wisdom and guidance to come through. As we remember the spiritual principles you hold true, you align within and cultivate greater trust in Life and in yourself. These sessions are $125 a month with a 6 month commitment.

You can book a Deep Dive Half Day when you’re facing a big project or need to unravel and prioritize many aspects of your career or business. Laying it all out in a digital creation board, we map out the facets and brainstorm. Often in these sessions, there is so much to be acknowledged and explored in the first hours, but in the last hour, the genius idea or inspired clarity turns on like a light bulb.  $500 gives you a half day of coaching plus 2 short follow up sessions in the weeks after.

If you’d like that — someone to help you sort through the thoughts, emotions and energies of your life– I’d be honored to work with you.

Click HERE to schedule a consultation this week. No pressure, no sales — just a conversation to get to know each other. We’ll discuss your needs, desires, payment options and logistics, so you can feel into the possibilities and choose what’s best for you.

NOTE: If we have worked together before, my session calendar is always open for you: http://tinyurl.com/session-with-jessica. For Deep Dive Half Days, email me at jess@jessicacolp.com to schedule a chunk of time that works for both of us.


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How do you talk to yourself?

Posted on 18 August 2021

I haven’t met anyone who doesn’t have an inner critic voice of judgement that is unkind and unreasonable. We all do! Perhaps yours was installed from influencing voices of your childhood, or from life experiences where you felt yourself not measuring up or making mistakes. It’s so very human of us to struggle with maintaining an accurate, balanced and healthy view of who we are.

I think that most of us have a sincere desire to be good. Mix that with a compulsion to be right and not wrong, and we can get paranoid about where we fall on the spectrum.

The only escape I know for that is to soften into self-acceptance and recognize that I show up all over the spectrum of good/bad, right/wrong, and that is part of the sweet and complex experience of being alive on planet earth.

When I allow myself space to be all that I am, I find that it’s okay that…

…I am good at some things, not at other things.
…I sometimes operate with a high level of rightness, while other times I am flat out wrong.
…I often measure up to other people’s expectations, but not always.
…I am both kind and nice and well-intentioned, as well as selfish and oblivious and surprisingly judgmental.
…I am capable of seeing some things clearly and other things take me years to comprehend.

And all of these truths are part of me being human. It’s okay that I am this AND that.

Does it help for you to remember this for yourself? To give yourself a little more room and grace to be whoever and whatever you are?

There may be a part of you that is afraid to let yourself off the hook and be okay with yourself. That’s normal too. But give it a try!

You have more choice, space and awareness when you relax. Much more than when you hold yourself in judgment.

We’re over half way through the daily practice class I’m teaching this month, called I Am Enough. One of the big things we’ve been exploring over the past two weeks is how we talk to ourselves. I offered the class an assignment to create a new script of inner dialogue and turn it into a voice recording for themselves to listen to over and over as a way to cultivate a new inner voice — one that is healthy and honoring.

Try out these statements:

…I am enough. Whatever I got done today is enough.
…I am interesting and complex and I don’t have to be perfect. All I have to be is me.
…I make sense. My responses make sense.
…I’m changing and growing and learning, and wherever I am on the learning curve is good.
…I make mistakes and that’s okay. Everyone does. I accept myself as I am.
…I aim for authenticity and truth, not perfection.

You don’t have to inflate yourself with over the top statements of positivity. Aim for statements that are true, neutral and easy for yourself to believe. Make your new self-talk warm and kind. Give yourself space to be imperfect, and speak to yourself with a tone that calms your nervous system so you can relax and be present with what is.

You are enough. You were enough yesterday. You will be enough tomorrow.

If this is a growth edge for you, I do recommend purchasing this class. It’s been very satisfying to dive into multiple layers of a conversation about enoughness and wholeness. If you register now, you can join us for the last week of live classes, and have immediate access to previous recordings.

I also invite you to work with me in sessions. You lay out what you’re struggling with, and we talk it through together to the place where you have more peace and clarity.

I also have a free community sharing circle next week that you’re invited to. The topic this month is perfectionism.

Details for all offerings are below. Meanwhile, be kind to yourself. It’s a strange and wonderful experience to be you, alive in 2021, living a life that no one has lived before. Enjoy it, and create it to suit you.

I know that’s possible.


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Who and what you are — it’s enough.

Posted on 4 August 2021

Has anyone told you lately that you’re amazing just as you are?
That even if you make mistakes, you’re still cool?
That you don’t have to DO anything to be loveable?

Do YOU speak to yourself with that level of unconditional acceptance and warmth?

Practice affirming “I am enough, just as I am” and see what changes in your world.

Of course, I know you aren’t perfect and that you do make mistakes. This is the truth of all of us.

I also know that the more you accept yourself without judgment and remember that you are inherently enough just as you are, the less you need other people to validate you and the healthier all your relationships become.

That, of course, is some deep work of inner alignment! It’s also a foundational practice of confidence, ease and healthy self-esteem. And, I invite you into it with me…

I AM ENOUGH: a 22 day practice in living from wholeness begins Thursday, August 5.

Read more HERE or simply say YES and join us. It’s $144 and includes all recordings.

P.S. 22 day classes are one of my biggest joys to offer because of how layered and nuanced our conversation becomes over the course of three weeks of practice. It’s one thing to talk about principles of healthy self esteem. It’s another to practice them! That’s what this class is for — deep and practical shifts that YOU choose. I’d love to have you join us!


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I’ve been quiet this year…

Posted on 26 July 2021

I’ve been quiet this year. I had plans, goals and big ideas about what I would accomplish, but instead of outer productivity, this year has been rich in inner shifts. I feel like I’ve been hibernating. Resetting. Listening more than speaking. Looking inward more than outward.

I didn’t want to slow down. But I also didn’t have the energy or bandwidth to do the things my mind told me I should do. Eventually, I surrendered to that. I’ve continued to work one-on-one with clients, showing up where Life asked me to be, but I’ve disengaged from a lot of other activities. I withdrew from social media, stopped teaching classes and creating content for many months, and gave myself permission to not do a lot of what I’d normally feel I had to do…. In short, I relaxed and got quiet.

Honestly, I didn’t know how much I needed that.

The more I’ve quieted, the more I’ve felt the pieces of my self that have been trying hard to prove something. My worthiness? My validity? My rightness? It’s an old and exhausting game — one I don’t want to keep playing.

It hasn’t been easy to be with myself without the usual distractions, but as one of my spiritual teachers, Michael Beckwith says, “a bad day for the ego is a good day for the soul.” I’ve felt the truth of that this season. Apparently my spirit was calling for a deep ego check — a recalibration of self and identity.

Now, after months of quiet time, it’s easier for me to catch my inner efforting and ask — What am I trying to prove? To who? And what if I let that go? I’m practicing greeting all parts of myself with warmth and compassion. I remember that I don’t need to do or be anything in particular. Who I am, simply being Jessica, is enough. I have nothing to earn and nothing to prove. I’m not perfect, and I don’t have to be.

Have I learned this before? Yes. But I’m learning it again — another layer of inner peace gently establishing itself within me, a greater experience of wholeness.

As I allow these more subtle shifts from ego drive to spirit flow, what I need shows up for me — in a good conversation with a friend, a passage in a book, a dream, or an interaction with the world around me that touches me so deeply, I feel blessed and loved. I don’t effort to make this happen. I don’t earn it. I simply relax and receive it.

All of this is the inspiration for the daily practice class I’ve just put up for August called, I Am Enough: a 22 day practice in living from wholeness. Perhaps it speaks to you and you’d like to join me in sinking roots into this foundational principle of identity and spiritual truth. I’d welcome that. Tenderly.

I’m also curious about what the last months have been for you. Have you been in retreat and quiet time like me? Or have you been in a state of creativity and productivity? Do you have a lot to talk about and process? Do you want the space in which to hear yourself and integrate the wisdom within you? If so, I invite you into sessions.

Commit to a 3 or 6 month coaching package or to monthly Spirit Sessions with focus on inner alignment. Interested? Schedule a quick call with me to discuss how we might work together in a way that’s most supportive of you.

I’m here for you. My well is full. My heart is open. And I’m deeply grateful for the abundance that is within me and within all of us.


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If you’re feeling pressed against a problem, do this instead…

Posted on 16 March 2021

Are you feeling how Life is working out for you, or are you trying to MAKE it work out for you?  There’s a difference. Can you feel it?

Check in — where in your life do you feel yourself pressed up against a problem?

Maybe something is taking a long time to land in, and that seems like a problem.
Maybe someone’s behavior is rankling you, and they seem like the problem.
Maybe you feel like you’re doing it wrong, and you really want to do it right, and you’re viewing yourself as the problem.

If you’re feeling cornered into problem-solving mode, here’s what I suggest:

Give it all some space. Breath and soften into your simplest intention of resolution.

Put your attention on something else for a while. Notice what in your world is flowing, what makes you smile, what is beautiful or inspiring to you… This shift in attention will shift your inner state of being.

Take action that feels light and fun towards something else. Truly, you can play hooky on your problems for a little while — it will help! Go on a friend-date, get out in nature, wash your car, get a haircut — initiate movement in a different area of your life and give yourself a few hours or a few days off from trying to fix things.

It’s not a waste of time to pause. Take a break is often the most efficient way to speed things up.

As you back up and breathe, more can come in.

Sometimes the problem rearranges itself on its own. The person you’re bothered by might just have a change of heart when you give them space. That delay might actually work out in your favor, if you drop your timeline and let it. And always, putting your attention on other things that are working for you gets you back in your heart — the place from which the inspiration for win-win solutions are born.

Things in life are always shifting and changing — even without you doing too much about them.

Personally, I find such grace in allowing my life to flow with only inspired little nudges from me. When I try to tackle problems with a sledgehammer, I waste energy and make a mess. When I relax and give things space, they work out for me with ease.

It’s not always easy to remember this, especially when you’re a conscientious hard-working person who wants to be on task and do everything right, but… you can practice!

And if you need help, reach out for sessions. I’m happy to remind you to shift perspective, return to your heart, and allow things to work out for you. They will!


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Love is a verb

Posted on 9 February 2021

Happy February! It’s a good month for loving if you choose it to be. It could be romantic and come with chocolates, flowers, and valentines. If that’s not your cup of tea, embrace love in a different way that suits you better.

Sometimes we forget that love is a verb. To be loving is to be guided by an open heart, empathy, kindness and courage. Loving ourselves and our world inspires us toward greater creations and wiser responses.

Take a tough situation in your life and ask yourself:

When I soften into a loving posture, what do I see and know?
What is the most loving action I can take here now?
What does it look like to include all parties (or emotions) in this situation in a loving response?

Choosing to be loving to yourself might include giving yourself support instead of trying to do it all on your own.

Choosing to be loving to others might include you backing away at times and creating breathing room for all parties.

Choosing to be loving at work might include doing your best, but not over-giving or trying to compensate for systems that actually need to be reformed.

You’re not looking for the sweet or sentimental path. You’re looking for the most courageous, inclusive and wisest response — one that will create more for you and everyone else too.

You have a great capacity to be loving. If you forgot that this year, tune back in again. Your love transforms your world.


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Do you know your YES and your NO clearly?

Posted on 27 January 2021

When faced with choices, are you able to find your true YES, NO or MAYBE?

Can you tune in so deeply that you hear your own inner guidance at the soul level?

Can you hold your own and honor your desires even when others desire something different for you?

Can you recognize when and where you need a little more time to gather information?

And can you give yourself space around your choices to find your way through no matter how long it takes?

Even when there is pressure to decide quickly?

Knowing how to find and express your authentic YES and NO is a LIFE SKILL! Could you use a tune up?

 

YES, NO and MAYBE: a 3 part series begins tomorrow.

We meet Thursday nights at 7pm Pacific 

Jan 28 – Feb 11.

READ MORE HERE, and if it’s a YES for you join us.

It’s $90 or sliding scale “pay what you choose“.

It’s important that you have your voice and your clarity. Now more than ever.

 

P.S. When you know and express your YES and NO clearly, what shifts in your life?

A lot, right?

Boundaries become easier, time stops being your enemy, and you find yourself flowing with Life instead of beating your head against your problems. That’s what I want for you.

Need a specific session on that? Book it.

 


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Are you giving yourself enough support?

Posted on 22 January 2021

Here in the first month of 2021, so much has shifted and changed already, and we’ve only just begun!

How will you support yourself as the year continues to unfold?

Here are some of my self-commitments:

Frequent time in nature.
Regular heart-to-heart conversations with friends.
Weekly play-dates with my niece and nephew.
Reading that awakens and inspires me.
Sleep, exercise, healthy food…
Meditation and journaling.
Spiritual practice and daily rituals for inner connection.
Sessions for me.

This isn’t just a list. These are things I DO in order to BE who I desire to be.

Are any of those part of your self-care practice too?

Do a quick inventory yourself:

What have you chosen or put in place to support your mental health?
Your emotional health?
Your physical health?
Your spiritual health?

And where do you need to add in more?

I’m one resource of support. You can book sessions regularly throughout the year or join class offerings. People who work with me tend to their inner realms before facing outer circumstances. It makes a big difference! You can choose that for yourself.

As this year unfolds, you’ll need to tap into your inner resilience, your inner knowing, and your grounding – over and over. You can do that!  But set yourself up for success. Establish habits and practices that help you show up as your best self, and from there, create your world.

Our world can get better and better! I have great hope and faith in that. We just have to choose it, individually and collectively, one day at a time.


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2020 changed us. May we be wiser for it.

Posted on 29 December 2020

Here in the last days of the year, I hope you pause and celebrate what you have lived and who you have become.

You are here still!

You have walked your particular curriculum of 2020, and you have grown, you have changed, and if you soften to receive it all, you are wiser for it.

Look over your shoulder and acknowledge the journey:

What was sweet?
What was painful?
What was humbling?

What fell away?
What landed in?

Who walked the path with you as support and friend? (Send them love!)
Who is no longer beside you? (Bless them too!)

Where did you resist?
Where did you flow?
What did you learn?

What do you know now that you wish you’d known earlier? (Go back in time and whisper it to yourself.)

What became simple and clear?
What truths or principles sustained you?

What is now emerging as new desire and hope within you?

Honor it all, my friend! Feel whatever you feel, release whatever you need to release, and walk forward with an open and ready heart.

If you could use a series of sessions to reset for the new year, pop yourself in my calendar. I’m here for you.


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