Relax, Center, Soften

Posted on 13 March 2020

Relax.
Center.
Soften.

I’m saying this over and over to myself and to my clients.

I don’t want to give anyone platitudes.
I do want to reassure you…

You can be present with this.
There is a stillness within you that will resource you.
When you tune into that, things on the outside are far easier to respond to.

Over the past five days I’ve had both long and short sessions with business owners, leaders, board members, parents and individuals… everyone facing this strange new world of a pandemic with a sense of responsibility for the choices they are being asked to make.

This is intense.

Over and over, I remind my clients…

Instead of choosing from fear, walk yourself back to center first.

Instead of spiraling out in all kinds of worse case scenarios, find that space within you that remembers and trust in possibility. From there you’ll see more, know more, and create more.

There isn’t a formula for this… it’s feeling work. It requires compassion. And it’s rich.

If you need help with this, reach out for a session.

I’m here for you.


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Remain steady in times of chaos

Posted on 12 March 2020

How I meet anything dictates what it becomes for me:

When I greet something with fear, I experience it as trauma.
When I greet something with resistance, I lock myself in conflict.
When I greet something with curiosity, I learn from it.
When I greet something with an open heart, I co-create with it.

How are you greeting this unprecedented experience of the Coronavirus?

I don’t have any simple answers about how to be with it. But, I do know that there’s a place within me that can meet all kinds of chaos with a steady calm.

I’m finding that place inside me of… on the daily.

I remind myself that if I get sick, I’ll walk through it.
If my finances are impacted, I’ll walk through it.
If I need to stay home for weeks, I’ll walk through it.
If I run out of toilet paper, I’ll live.

I can greet each day with curiosity, wonder, and an open heart. I can be a good neighbor. I can receive information from the outside world. I can hear what is true for me on the inside. I can wash my hands, take care of my body, and be compassionate with any fear that arises.

What are your practices to steady yourself?
What helps you live from your center?

Whatever it is, choose that. It’s as important as washing your hands.


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How to be smart without overthinking…

Posted on 28 February 2020

When I started coaching over a decade ago I had no idea how much I’d love my clients and my work. I was pretty sure coaching would be a great job (or I wouldn’t have chosen it), but I couldn’t have foreseen how it would actually unfold.

My mind could not have showed me — it didn’t know. But, something in me knew!

I could feel it.

My first glimpses of this feeling came randomly — from a book I read about the entrepreneurial path that got me thinking outside the box of my career, from an article in a magazine about a woman who became a life coach as a ‘natural career transition,’ and from a conference my work sent me to where I was drawn to attend a coaching demonstration that lit up my whole body.

I followed the feeling and the flow, and one inspiration led to another. I’m glad that I paid attention!

Being smart about life includes being aware of the flow of life around you such that you catch the moments of inspiration and the information they bring you. It includes sensing that change is coming even before it arrives. It includes being aware of what energizes you and what doesn’t, and feeling your truth from within.

A good life is created from greater intelligence than our thinking can give us.  A good life is created from the inside out.

In sessions, I want to talk to you about smart plans, but I also want to listen to what you feel and know within your body. I want to hear what you’re noticing when you lift your head and look beyond your immediate problems. I want you to be present to what feels stale or depleting, and get curious enough to feel for what else is possible.

I want you to tap into your greater intelligence and create your life from that.

Next month’s daily class is a practice in this: Out of Your Head, Into the Flow. We meet by phone or recording every day for 22 days and it’s lively. Come tap into your greater intelligence on the daily. And, as always, feel free to pop yourself into my calendar anytime for a coaching session about what you know from within.

The guidance within you is greater than you think.


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Things to remember when you’re beating yourself up

Posted on 12 February 2020

Have you ever noticed that beating yourself up for what you’ve chosen only keeps you hooked into it? I find this with clients all the time. Before getting visionary we have to neutralize that self-judgment.

Let me remind you of two important facts about being human:

1. It’s okay to make messes and mistakes along the journey; in fact, you must. In the grand scheme of your life those things you call mistakes are simply part of the colorful tapestry of you. They’re necessary. The trial and error is a key component in learning anything. Give yourself permission to not be perfectly evolved, perfectly visionary, and perfectly perfect all the time. Who would that person be? Someone not nearly as interesting as you.

1. When you feel stuck, it doesn’t mean you’re doing it wrong. Often those days or weeks of confusion and stuckness are days or weeks in which everything else is rearranging and it all just may need time. A seed takes time to sprout. A baby takes months to grow before it’s ready to be born. You’re not wrong for where you are. Don’t beat yourself up for timing that is out of your control. Trust that it’s all unfolding.

When you’ve released your self-judgment and come back into balance with yourself, THEN you can ask bigger questions that will help you see a way forward:

* What is this situation offering me? What is are the gifts of having created it?
* What actions can I take to create something better here for me (and everyone else too)?
* What is my intuition telling me about timing?
* What parts of this do I need to surrender as not in my control?
* How at ease can I be with it all?

Now what do you know?

I use these questions with clients in sessions. If you could use the kind of space and inquiry, book some sessions with me.  Also, I have workshop on Saturday in LA called Let It Go and Choose Again, the focus of which will be releasing judgment and pivoting to what’s possible next. No by-passing in this work — instead a full acknowledgment, appreciation, and embrace of what has been so we can look forward with clear and clean perspective.

 


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Support Yourself With Sessions

Posted on 6 February 2020

Earlier this week a client reminded me that in one of our first conversations 3 years ago, I told her “you always have enough”. I’m pretty sure I asked her first if there was ever a time she didn’t have enough and she told me no, so, I asked her to lean into that and set aside her fear. At that time she was nervous about work drying up, and her behavior reflected the anxiety. When she calmed herself, remembered that she’s always had enough, and lived from that truth, she created the space for it to be. Truly, in the last 3 years, she’s had plenty of work – it did not dry up, it did not go away, it did not pass her up for someone younger as she feared. This year, in fact she’s passing up work in favor or travel time with her family and that is such a thrill!

I love the relationships I build with my clients. I love watching their stories unfold. I love celebrating the good that is in their lives and expanding the space for more.

From my point of view, our lives should get better and better. We don’t get to choose necessarily HOW they get better, but we do get to ask for and receive more of what lights us up, brings us joy and expands us. To have that greater expansion, joy and light, we have to be people who are willing to be expanded, joyful and light.

In coaching session, that’s where we go — into what you’re struggling with, to reality check our thoughts, beliefs and postures. On your own sometimes that’s hard, but together in the space of session work, it can be so easy.

If this year, you’d like to add a coach to your support team, reach out! I’d love to work with you.

A single session is $150.
Recurring monthly sessions are $125/month.
Or a package of 4 sessions is $497.

My client calendar is HERE.


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The art of choosing

Posted on 28 January 2020

Don’t just think through your choices. Feel them.

Notice the energy of each option:

Does this direction feel light or heavy?
Does it expand me or contract me?

When the energy is light in a particular direction, open up to it.

Even when it appears illogical, be daring enough to entertain the possibility it presents.

If it’s heavy, pause. Don’t keep walking in directions that contract you.

Wait. Ask more questions.

Choosing based on energetic awareness is powerful.

There’s an art to listening and perceiving. It requires you to be present. It requires you to value yourself enough to choose what feels good to you.

And… it’s something you can practice and get good at.

Want to practice with me? I’ll guide you!

Choice & Choosing, a 5 week calls series, begins Wednesday. Come play!

 

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When you’ve got big choice points in front of you, book a session.  Together we can feel into the possibilities and align you to your inner knowing. You DO know! We all have a ton of awareness about the paths in our life, it’s just that so often our knowing is eclipsed by our stress, our over-thinking, or our fears of making the wrong choice. Again, when you’re caught in that, slow down. Ask questions. Feel in.

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This year, nurture your growth with lots of support.

Posted on 8 January 2020

What are you poised to create this year?
 

What are you growing into being next?

The process of growth is continual.

Life invites you to become more in every phase of your experience.

Maybe this year Life will propel you into more leadership skills, more tenderness and compassion with others, or more self-love…

Maybe you are expanding into something so new you don’t have words for it yet.

How kind can you be to yourself through it all?

Growth can feel exhilarating. 
It can also at times feel painful.

Give yourself support. Book some sessions.

Coaching sessions give you
the space to hear yourself, 
the space to acknowledge your challenges and the space to feel into the next steps and next possibilities.

When you’re fully supported growth unfolds with far greater ease.

I’ve got a few openings for new clients this year. Would you like to work with me?

New clients can schedule a free consultation HERE.

Or simply dive into my CLIENT CALENDAR with gusto.

Sessions are $150 for a single session, or 4 for $497.


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What I wish for you…

Posted on 24 December 2019

Whatever you are about this week, may you feel the warmth of Life towards you.

May you relax into quiet moments and find an even keel in busy ones. May you perceive the beauty in the world around you.

May you be a friend to strangers. May you be a friend to yourself. May you continually expand your capacity to give and receive.

May you say no to what no longer serves you. May you say yes to that which speaks to your soul. May you be courageous enough to say nothing or to say everything as your heart guides you.

May you be willing to grow. May you be willing to change course. May you be willing to get bigger when you want to shrink.

May you give yourself more space to be imperfect, to try new things, to fall down and then get back up. May you celebrate the way it all works out even when it doesn’t go according to plan.

May you remember that you don’t have to be everyone’s cup of tea. May you afford others the same space. May you choose to be generous and know your abundance.

May you release your judgments. May you release your resentments. May you release your standards of perfection.

May you give up controlling. May you let Life support you. May you feel yourself connected to all things.

May you be happy. May you be healthy. May you be vibrant.

May you know that all is well.

If you could use some clarity, a new vision, or support accessing your truth, I’m here for that. Book a session. My calendar is open through the new year.


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How my tree got decorated yesterday…

Posted on 9 December 2019

My niece and nephew came over yesterday and helped me decorate my Christmas tree. This is a tradition they started with me last year after I told them that I wasn’t sure I’d decorate my home for the holidays — I mean, it is only me in the house after all!  Ruby, who was 9 at the time, immediately said, “Oh, it’s okay, we’ll come help you!” Then she arranged with my brother, her Dad, to actually do that. They came over on a Sunday and had a blast being in charge of decorating my home.

I know better than to refuse a generous offer! And they lit my place up with festive cheer in a manner that humbled me.

This year, I figured I should lean in and receive that help again. Why? Because it created so much for me, but also for Ruby and Royal. It’s a way they get to show their love for me, and whenever I soften and let people love me, it reverberates through my life too. It deepens our relationship. It grows our joy. (Catch a glimpse of that here.)

I wonder — in how many more areas I can relax enough to receive the gifts that I’m being offered?

For you, December might be a month full of activities, or a month in which you shy away from all of that. You could feel stress or pressure, or your inner Grinch might be surfacing.  But instead of contracting, soften and relax. Notice what is being offered to you.

Who is reaching out to create with you?
Who wants to love you?
Where can you be generous in your receiving?

To actually receive you might have to show up, say yes, or go to the store to get ready. I had to dig out the Christmas decorations and cookie cutters to prepare for my niece and nephew helping me, but doing so brought out my own inner generosity. How fun can I let this day be? What would add to it? Fresh baked cookies? Homemade lunch? Silly hats? Yes!

In this spirit, activities aren’t exhausting. They’re rejuvenating.

That’s what I wish for you.

May you receive the season with an open heart and generous spirit. May this month for you be joy-filled.


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When change comes, get out of your way…

Posted on 22 November 2019

A client booked a session with me on Tuesday after getting news that an aspect of her business was going to have to change. It was the kind of news that could have sent her in a tail-spin —thus the coaching session. In a note to me in my calendar, she said she wanted to trust the expansion and get of her way so that she could meet the change with a sense of possibility. I was down for that!

You can’t control all the circumstances of your life. Things change continually. But whether you meet change with anxiety or with hopefulness — that’s in your control.

My client knows this, and she knew that facing this particular change with anxiety would create more chaos. She was aiming for calm, confidence and a sense of Life taking care of her.

Life can feel like a chaotic storm, but somewhere in the middle of the storm there IS a calm point. If you can center yourself, you can find it. From there you can relax. From there you can access an inner sense of optimism and hopefulness.

How is this what I’ve been asking for?
What can I create with this that it’s an even greater match to who I am now?
What are the possibilities of this turning out even better than I’ve envisioned?

When you view life with a healthy sense of optimism, a storm doesn’t have to be a traumatic experience. It could actually be a rejuvenating thrill!

I don’t know how this business situation is going to unfold for my client, but she’s ready for it. The story will probably have ups and downs (like all good stories do), but I know a few months down the road we will be celebrating how it all worked out. We’ll appreciate what was created. And my client will have it all as gold.

If calming your fears and shifting your energy doesn’t feel so easy, I get it! It’s simple, but depending on the level of anxiety you’re in, it can be hard to do on your own. No shame in that. That’s what coaching is for. Book a session. I’m here for you.

#Calm #Confident #HealthyDoseOfOptimism #LifeCoach #BeyondAnxiety


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