Are you aware of where you’re contracting?

Posted on 28 November 2020

Earlier this month, inspired by a few clients who were making big shifts in our sessions, I wrote a short list of questions and sat with them:

Where am I collapsing?
Where am I feeling small?
What does that part of me need?
What can I choose that is caring for myself?
Where can I find an energy of empowerment?
What choices do I have here?

Asking these questions helped me become aware of places I had contracted this year, and not yet expanded — places that felt like tightness in my being.

That’s not surprising, is it? The circumstances of this year have uniquely had their way with each of us. Have you been feeling an impact too?

Life unfolds in ways we can’t control.
Our biggest choice is in how we BE with it all.

We can resist or receive. We can complain or look for blessings. We can take on a defensive posture of self-protective, or we can care for ourselves in ways that allow us to expand and unwind.

We can grow and thrive… and receive it all as gold.

That’s a path of abundance, chosen from the inside out. I desire that for me and also for you, especially as we come close to ending this year and beginning the next.

However you spent Thanksgiving, I hope you created time to relax, count your blessings, and appreciate your life. If not, create space now. Sit with those questions above too, and let me know what arises within you. When you open and expand, more always arrives.

I’m here for you — with sessions, and also with a daily group class that starts Monday, called Abundance. Read more and register here.

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As we end 2020, attune again to abundance.

Posted on 24 November 2020

Every so often I recognize that it’s time to purposefully re-tune myself to abundance, possibility and flow. As we approach the end of 2020, I’m at that time again. Are you?

It’s been a year of change. Some things are coming to an end and dissolving. Some things are being created and innovated and we can’t yet see the impact of all of it.

We can look around and acknowledge that many are out of work. Our economy is not what we’re used to, and we don’t know what’s ahead.

Maybe your financial situation has changed this year too.

I acknowledge it all. I also have awareness of it. I feel the anxiety of the world around me, and some days it’s a challenge to remember what I know.

But I do know this: This is an Abundant Universe. There is more than enough for me and everyone else too. I’ve built my life and my business on this principle and it serves me well.

Living in that presumption of abundance creates a different experience of life. It shifts me out of fear into presence. I remember that government, pandemics, and economic conditions are not the source of my well-being. My source is Life itself.

This is the spiritual grounding that allows me to relax, and as I relax I am more creative, more attuned to possibility, more inspired, more resilient. Abundance lies here.

Abundance is a state of all my needs met. That includes money. It also includes everything else that contributes to my well-being.

When I cultivate that inner state of abundance, miracles show up, problems solve themselves, and there is ease in my world. When I vibe abundance, I don’t horde or contribute to problems — I am generous, and my actions contribute to solutions.

That ’s what I desire for me. That’s what I desire for you.

If you could use some support in stepping out of scarcity into the energy of abundance, join me for December’s daily class, ABUNDANCE.

We start Monday, November 30 and finish on Solstice, December 21. Class is $133, or “pay what you choose.” Daily classes are a joy, and I’d love to have you. More details HERE.

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Don’t get caught in the polarization.

Posted on 13 November 2020

In Pema Chodron’s book, Welcoming the Unwelcome, she offers a practice she calls “Just like me.”  All you have to do is look out at the world and notice people. With each person, you find something that you can pretty confidently identify is just like you. For example:

Just like me, this person wants to be right.
Just like me, this person wants to survive.
Just like me, this person loses it sometimes.
Just like me this person gets hungry and tired.
Just like me, this person wants to be happy.
Just like me, this person doesn’t want to be humiliated.

The point of the practice is to dissolve our separation, feel our connection and reduce the distance we put between us.

There is great polarization in our world. We can’t avoid that fact. But we can seek to BE something other than polarized. We can start seeing each other beyond our normal filters, and look first for how we are the same.

This practice doesn’t change the other. It changes me.

It returns me to my heart and from there I can perceive a different way forward.

We have some big challenges ahead of us as a nation. You, too, may have some big challenges ahead of you in your life.  Notice when you’re caught in patterns of separation and conflict. And DON’T try to solve your problems from that state. Soften into your heart. Feel your way forward. Innovative solutions and easy pathways are birthed from there.

I have hope for us. And I have hope for you.

If you could use a partner in any of this work, book some sessions. I’m here for you.




This gem of a book by Pema Chodron is our November read in the Books That Change Me book club on the Practical Mystics Playground.  Come join the club and discuss it with me.

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Why I get myself to the beach…

Posted on 6 October 2020

I’ve been getting myself to the beach once a week for several months now. It takes about 45 minutes to get there and at least an hour to get home, and I have to carve out the time in my schedule which isn’t always easy, but week by week I do. Because it serves me.

It doesn’t really matter if it’s cold or sunny or cloudy or windy. I just get myself there. I set up my beach blanket, watch the waves, and feel better for it. There’s a seagull with a broken wing who keeps finding me week after week and demanding that I share my snacks. There are pelicans and sometimes dolphins, and always interesting people around me.

I don’t have a big agenda at the beach. I go because it serves me. No matter how long I stay, I leave feeling better.

This year, especially, I have to pay attention to what I’m choosing that feels good, and what feels bad, what is healthy and what is not, what keeps me sane and stable, and what leaves me wobbly and off kilter. It’s not a luxury to care for myself in this way, it’s a necessity.

Can I remind you of that too?

Your mental health is important.
You inner state of being is important.
Your choice to care for yourself kindly is important.

The world is changing rapidly and demanding our watchfulness and participation . And — this is a big AND — we create best and contribute most when we’re healthy, inspired and capable of seeing the bigger picture.

Pay attention to what you’re choosing, who you’re listening to, how much time you’re investing online and how much in nature. Find your unique balance, consciously and attentively.

I’m teaching a daily class this month called Align First. Take Action Second. I designed this purposefully for the few weeks between now and the election, because I need it. Maybe you do too.

If so, sign up and join in. We begin Saturday.

And, if you discover yourself off kilter or needing support finding your alignment, book sessions. I’m here for you.

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Slow your breathing, calm your nervous system…

Posted on 9 September 2020

Last month I read a book called Breath by James Nestor. It’s a fascinating look at how we breathe and how we can breathe better — though the lens of scientific studies as well as through wisdom and wellness traditions from around the world. It captivated me! What it really gave me though was the reminder to close my mouth, breathe through my nose and slow my breathing down. Simple but helpful. When I breathe this way, I am calmer and steadier.

Try it with me.

Close your mouth.
Breathe through your nose.
Breathe even more slowly.

It’s counter-intuitive, but actually, the less breath you gulp in, the more nourished by the breath your body can become. (Read the book for a far better explanation on that.)

Some of you might be in smokey areas today. If you are, I’m sorry! I know you can’t do much about the quality of the air you’re breathing, but you can regulate your own breath.

Perhaps you can give yourself a few minutes to lie down and slow your breath.
Perhaps you might try alternate nostril breathing to calm your nervous system.
Perhaps you just close your eyes for a moment and take five long slow breaths.

As you slow your breath, notice how present you become to your body, to the space around you, to your inner being. The resources you need for your life are here — within you.

Self care basics are key this year! Also, I’m here for you, ready to support you on your path. Pop yourself in my calendar for a session anytime.

Seek the calm within the storm. It’s as important as the action asked of you by the world.

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Are you feeling it?

Posted on 26 August 2020

Can I remind you that this is a year of change and transformation? And you’re very likely feeling it.⠀

If your vision of your own future feels less solid and clear than it did last year, that’s okay. As the structures of the world change, our personal visions also change, and that is not wrong.⠀

If your sense of your SELF is changing, that’s okay too. The change that is taking place this year is not just circumstantial. It’s also internal. ⠀

Change requires time, space and patience. ⠀

In the meantime, as everything is still unformed and unclear…⠀

It’s good to be in awe.⠀
It’s good to be in question.⠀
It’s good to cultivate peace and joy in the present.⠀

As I coach my clients, we find these three elements together:⠀

1. We marvel at what is different. We step back a few steps, view it all through a broad lens, and exclaim, “Woah! All this has happened! All this has changed!” Such acknowledgment orients you to what’s here now and dissipates wrongness. ⠀

2. We get into questions that presume possibility. “What is this change creating? What is it making room for? What new strengths and skills is it growing inside of you? What is possible now because of it? ” With these questions, we step away from cynicism into hopefulness. ⠀

3. We consciously look for the smallest action that can create the greatest opening. We ask, “What can you adjust to give yourself a little more space, relieve some pressure, or help you refill your tank?” We honor what’s here, and what’s being felt, but we also look for ways to choose ease, peace and joy through it all. ⠀

Transformation can’t be rushed, but it can be received. Welcome it. Surrender to it. Honor it.⠀

You can walk through those steps yourself, and make them part of your self-talk and self-care. And, also, I’m here for you, ready to support you on your path. Pop yourself in my calendar anytime.

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It’s crazy out there. Don’t lose yourself.

Posted on 29 July 2020

The world at large is increasingly polarized and loud. How do you participate and pay attention without losing yourself?

Here’s what I’m continually reminding myself and my clients:

When your stress and anxiety rises, slow down.
When your mind obsesses or loops, return to your body.

Feel within:

What do I need?
What am I looking for?
What am I present to?
What really matters here?

The inner awareness that rises next won’t be complex. It’s simple and immediate. It returns you to the moment.

Not everything needs your attention in every single moment, and that the things that DO need your attention don’t require you to lose yourself to them.

Mental health is important.
Experiencing joyful moments is important.
Food and sleep and spiritual connection are important.

You have plenty to give the world — you have creativity that is needed now, skills that are valuable, and an important role to play in our fast-changing world — but giving from your overflow is far more sustainable and effective than trying to participate when you’re fragile and stressed.

Now more than ever, take care of yourself.

Healthy habits, meditation, supportive environments, and high vibe conversations are key. If you need help with that, I’m here for you – that’s my super-power! Join August’s Vision and Clarity class or book some sessions, but most importantly, slow down and pay attention within.

Everything you need to thrive is here for you.

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Okay, Universe, how is this a gift?

Posted on 14 July 2020

We’re never completely in control of what unfolds for us, but we always have choice about how we be with it. That’s a truth I’m remembering over and over again this year — how about you?

In mid-June, water began flooding from my upstairs neighbor’s bathroom into mine every time my neighbor took a shower. Obviously, that was a pretty big problem.

After freaking out a bit, I began asking, “Okay, Universe, how is THIS a gift?”

Then I calmed down, softened, and let the powers that be work it out for me.

As it turned out, I got a birthday vacation a few miles away in a super nice hotel room for almost two weeks — all arranged for me by my apartment management. I wouldn’t have chosen the experience of plumbing problems, but I can tell you — the more I relaxed about it, the more it worked out for me!  I loved my hotel, I loved the pool, I loved the proximity to new restaurants and the change of scenery after months of being quarantined in my apartment.

At the end of June, I moved back home refreshed and grateful, and honestly marveling at the gift of it all. Then, three days later water poured through my bathroom ceiling again!


Okay. Again, just because I have a good attitude about something, doesn’t mean I’m in control of how or when it resolves. What I am in control of is how I BE with what shows up. So, back to the question. I continued to ask — how is THIS a gift to me?

This time, I stayed home as workers came in and out of my apartment — cutting out wet walls, examining the pipes, and doing the repair work. I wasn’t thrilled with the disturbance, but then again, it was more activity in my apartment than I’ve had for months! And that was also weirdly refreshing. Men coming in and out every single day!? I let myself enjoy that. Truly. It added some pep to my single lady’s vibe.

Things come up. They just do.

We can resist, or we can flow.
We can complain, or we can go to question.
We can be mad, or we can be amused.
And always, we can lean in, receive what’s here and create with it.

It’s not always easy to relax enough to let Life work things out for you, but it is something you can practice and become really good at.

Live from the principle that everything that shows up can be a gift to you. Even when you can’t see how, ask, and stay open. If you’re feeling sassy, ask your question as a dare to the Universe — “Alright, Universe, this is a doozy! Show me! How is EVEN THIS a gift to me?”

Then BE the person who receives it as a gift.

P.S. Flowing with life doesn’t mean you always smile and nod to what’s there. Sometimes flowing means going with a wave of emotion and letting your voice roar! That’s on the table too. The path of least resistance can only be felt from the inside, and it requires that you be present and aware. If you could use help with that, book some sessions. I’m here for you.

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Notice when you shut down or contract… and choose again.

Posted on 11 June 2020

We’re in an important experience of change in our nation right now. Personally, I’m so excited to witness and participate in this revolution of consciousness. Black Lives Matter. Justice and equality matters. Healing racism matters. A continuation of the Civil Right Movement is over-due and highly needed. And, as with any revolutionary movement, it is unfolding with intensity. Marches, demonstrations, videos of violence and police brutality, op-eds, news stories, and demands for reform… it’s a lot!

Over these next days and weeks you may want to check out or turn away. It’s hard to stay present to abuse and trauma for too long, yet waking up to inequality and injustice and the consequences of racism is our call right now. And we can do this.

Instead of avoiding that call, simply notice that you may sometimes shut down.

Check yourself in these moments:

Is my heart open or closed?
Is my mind open or closed?
Am I clinging to the status quo of yesterday, or am I willing to create a better world?
Am I in limitation or possibility?

Noticing when you shut down or contract is huge.
Noticing it means you aren’t unconscious.

You may not be able to shift immediately from contraction to expansion, but noticing your state of being gives you perspective and choice.

This is important right now.

Commit to being conscious.

Let me remind you: You are a person who is drawn to possibility. You are a person who loves to live in question. You have an incredible capacity to love and learn and grow. Your heart can expand so big, it takes in everyone. You can answer Life’s call to change and evolve. And you can do so jubilantly.


This is you, if you choose. Anchor in these energies and they’ll guide you to action.

When you need support and clarity, reach out for sessions. I’m here for you.


P.S. Change requires a shift in consciousness. Last week I mentioned I’m reading How to be Anti-Racist by Ibram X. Kendi. Many of my friends are reading it with me. Perhaps you want to start your own friend’s circle to discuss and grow together. I’m happy to send you more book suggestions (just ask!), or if books aren’t your thing, but movies are, sit down with friends and family and watch Selma, Just Mercy, and 13th. Lean in, learn and grow.

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When things are tumultuous…

Posted on 1 June 2020

Welcome to June! I have no idea what this month is going to be like, but I’m looking over my shoulder at May in awe. I didn’t forsee the month ending in such a revolutionary moment for our nation.

Though it feels tumultuous, I am grateful that so many people have been galvanized to action by the murder of George Floyd and are demanding change. Sometimes, lulled by our normal routines, it’s too easy to forget that — we CAN create a greater world.

We can redefine priorities.
We can transform systems.
We can say no to injustice.
We can take to the streets (literally and metaphorically) and work through our grief and rage collectively and individually.
We can look at our own responsibility for what is here, and we can take action so that something different is created.

Does this bring up a lot of feelings in you? If so, you’re not alone. The whole nation is feeling a lot right now. That is part of the process.

It’s important to be present to what is here now.
It’s important to be in the question of what else can be created.

Finding your balance between those is not a formula.  It’s something to practice and feel into moment by moment, day by day. When you notice that you’ve clicked into current reality too much, zoom out and take a higher perspective.  When you notice that you’re floating too far out or you’re not being present to the experience of now, bring yourself back and soften your heart to feel what is here.

Somewhere in that practice you become the bridge to greater realities.

There is so much in our personal and collective worlds that is ripe for change and transformation.  Old normals have passed away and as we step forward and create again, may we do so with wisdom, integrity, and clear vision.


P.S. I’m reading How to be Anti-Racist by Ibram X. Kendi. It’s brilliant, important, and the book I am sharing with all my friends. Check it out.

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