How to walk through tough days … with ease.

Posted on 28 February 2019

One of the things I often remind clients is “if you don’t judge what’s here, it can contribute to you.”

Even these kinds of experiences:

* Coming down with the flu and having to cancel plans you were really looking forward to.
* Having your bank accounts emptied by the IRS in an unexpected mix up.
* Finding out that the employee you have been grooming for greater responsibility is seeking a job elsewhere.
* Being ghosted by a lover you thought was really into you.

Stuff is going to happen in your life that is not what you expected, wanted or planned on. How do you walk through even these experiences with ease?

1. Suspend your judgment. What’s going to come of this? You don’t know yet. Don’t catastrophize or make this situation mean anything yet.  Don’t be quick to rush into interpreting anything as wrong. Instead, say to yourself, “This is interesting. I wonder how this will unfold to my benefit?”

2. Stay relaxed. Ask simple questions: “What is this? What’s required here? What if anything do I need to do?” If you don’t need to do anything, DON’T.  Relax your body.  Soften.  Expand your awareness so you have a broader view of what’s going on. You’ll receive more information this way (shoot, you might even find that you’re the smartest person in the room!).

3. Trust. This too shall pass. Your life has many moments, many days, many experiences, and this is just one of the many. Everything has worked out in your life up to this point, and I’ll bet this will too. You don’t have to know how it’s going to turn out, but you can trust that you’ll know what you need to know when you need to know it. You always have.

As you face every unexpected twist and turn in your life, I recommend that you ask, “In what way is this a contribution to me? How is this what I’ve been asking for?”

As crazy as those questions might sound, I have yet to find that anything that has unfolded in my life has not been some kind of contribution to me in alignment with what I have been asking for.

And of course, you don’t have to deal with everything on your own. You can always book a session and get support. Each of the scenarios above are from clients of mine in the last week. And yes, they followed the three steps. They got out of judgment. They relaxed and asked questions, and they walked forward with an ease and calm that comes with trusting themselves to have the resources and awareness to survive even this.

Use the tools. See what happens.

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