A couple of books I keep recommending to clients…

Posted on 18 September 2018

I’m a big fan of books, and the impact they can have on our thinking.  So many times a book has expanded me into realms I didn’t know where possible. So I read a lot. And I recommend many books to clients.  This month, these are the two books I’m mentioning the most.

I purchased Never Split the Difference: Negotiating As if  Your Life Depended On It by Chris Voss because it kept coming up in my ‘recommended’ book titles on Audible. I had no idea why — it didn’t LOOK like a book I’d pick out or enjoy… but, it’s so cool to be surprised! Within the first chapter I was a raving fan of the author — a former FBI hostage negotiator — for his insight on the dynamics of a conversation. Each chapter had tools for me to practice — like, creating a conversation in which people can say no to me over and over, so they get to be in control, without pressure, and just may be more willing to say YES when I’d really like them to say yes. It works brilliantly! And, while this is about negotiation and manipulation, it’s also kind. When we can communicate with people in a manner that honors and acknowledges what they require, MORE is created! I wouldn’t mind living in a world in which Chris Voss is negotiating on behalf of ‘we the people’.

This Is Day One: a Practical Guide to Leadership That Matters by Drew Dudley is sweet, raw and an easy read, yet it will leave you inspired and more present in your life. As a leadership book, it’s not militaristic or rigid — it’s caring and expansive. Drew challenged my laissez faire attitude about some major aspects of my life. He’s a brilliant story teller, and the characters he introduced me to touched me deeply. He also plays with questions — ones you can ask each day about what you chose. These have worked their way into my daily routine: How was I kind today? What did I choose that was caring for my body? In what ways did I nurture my business today? As I ask myself those questions at the end of the day, I measure and acknowledge what really matters.


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Are you at a crossroads?

Posted on 21 August 2018

Are you at a crossroads?  Do you have some big decisions to make?

Can you see your choices clearly? Or is it all a bit muddled to you?

Perhaps you see where you want to be, but you can’t see how you’ll get there.

This is a good time to hire a coach.

You’ll lay it all out. You’ll unpack the options. You’ll get clarity on what’s in front of you.

What is the next step?

Who do you need to be as you take it?

What can you create that works better for you and for everyone else too?

As you talk it through with your coach, you gain perspective. 
You lift your head higher. 
You perceive more possibilities than you would on your own.

Your inner fears don’t dictate your actions. 
Your inner knowing does.

With your coach, you get vulnerable, and from there you are more conscious.

It’s the gift you give yourself that makes everything else you’re facing easier.

Over time you do get to where you wanted to go. 
And you’re proud of how you got there.

 

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Are YOU at a crossroads? Do you have a mountain of decisions to make?

Book a session with me. Our first conversation is 75 minutes for $150.

Schedule here: https://my.timetrade.com/book/MNQYL


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Do you approach as a critic?

Posted on 14 August 2018

Have you noticed that how you approach anything matters a great deal?

If you lead with criticism or barge in with a strong-arm agenda, you’re likely to create conflict.

Yet, when you approach anything — a person, place, situation, animal, or your own body! — with curiosity and no judgment, you create a spacious field of possibility.

Say hi.
Acknowledge what’s there.
Be spacious and open.
Have interest and curiosity.

What does that create?

Relaxation. Possibility. A listening and receiving from which something new can be created.

Really. Try this with an animal. With your boss. With the TSA agent at the airport. With your mother. With a baby. With your garden.

And Friends… try it with your BODY!

How often have you greeted your body with a steel intent to shape it into something else?
Or a desire to mask what it really looks like?
Or a frustration at it’s apparent dysfunction?

Does your iron will over your body really create more?  Or does it actually create a war?

Try something different.

In last month’s Dominant Energy class, we played with the potent energy of softness and kindness, and one of my students requested that in our next class we focus this energy on our bodies. She even gave me the name of this new class — Happy with My Body. And so it is. We begin this week.

We’ve got tools, and ten weeks to practice choosing something new with our bodies. I’ll guide you with weekly calls and assignments. Does this light you up?

Feel into the possibility.

If you approached your body differently, and actually chose to be happy with it, would that change your body?

Might it actually create the space for your body to contribute to you, respond to your requests, or heal with ease?

If those questions excite your body, say yes and join the Happy With My Body class.

We begin our pre-launch on Friday, August 17 and continue for ten Mondays in a row.

Also, as a warm up to that class, I’m offering two FREE calls this week — You and Your Body Relationship Coaching Zooms — and I’d love to have you join us.

Click HERE to read more and register. 

Lead with kindness, and approach with gentleness.

And what else is possible?


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Are you too hard on yourself?

Posted on 6 August 2018

Sometimes a coaching session is like a confessional. People tell me things they haven’t told other people. They lay it all out, because I’m listening without any judgment.

And here’s something I have learned from years of listening….

People who learn to laugh at the disasters they’ve created or the crap they have chosen can change it with far more agility than people who beat themselves up for it.

Judgment is rigid.
Laughter is an easy energy for pivoting.

Often, as a coach, that’s what I provide. A wider and lighter perspective. And the easy space of allowance in which laughter is possible.

“What did you do? 
Wow! That was a mess!”

And we giggle.

“What did you say? 
Ouch! That did not calm anything down, did it?”

And we snort.

We, as the people we are, are funny. Sometimes we do ALL the wrong things. Sometimes we act like total fools. Sometimes our grasping, our insecurities, our tempers run the show.

And so it is…

Does it have to be a big deal?

Find yourself cute.

And choose again.

Apologize if it’s needed.

Make amends if that will create more.

And CHOOSE AGAIN!

Pivot into a different energy, a different choice, a different creation.

You get as many shots at this things called YOUR LIFE as you choose. And just because you’d re-do it a different way if you had a chance, doesn’t make you a failure.

You learn as you go. And that’s just how it is.

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Interested in working with me? Book a time. First session is $150.
 

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When you’re on the verge of a big change…

Posted on 23 July 2018

Are you on the verge of something big and exciting in your life?

Are you dreaming up your next big adventure?

When you’re about to veer off from the beaten path, you want to talk it out with someone who will share your enthusiasm WHILE asking you questions to help you see it all more clearly.

Sometimes friends and family have too many agendas to be that space for you — at least in the beginning.

Not everyone is adventurous in the way that you are.
Not everyone gets you completely.

That’s why you talk it out with your coach.

You get clear on the energy of what you’d like to create next.
You feel into the possibilities.
You notice what is light for you (and what isn’t).
You trust yourself and your instincts.
You trust Life to blow you away with miracles as you step forward.
….and you celebrate it all!

It’s your life.

Why shouldn’t it be an adventure?

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Interested in working with me? Book a time. First session is $150.

Click HERE to schedule.

 

 


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This summer I gave myself Alaska

Posted on 8 July 2018

Happy July, Friends!

It’s HOT in LA, and we’re doing the best we can to keep our house cool. My cat is barely moving, and I am sunburned from a day at the beach yesterday with my girlfriends.

And, also, I am so grateful!

I live in this city I’ve chosen to live in. I do work that I love with people I enjoy. And, I like who and what I am. There’s a congruency between my life and me that I didn’t know was possible even a few years ago.

Much of this gratitude I’m being, has been the gift of a visit home to Alaska last month. I moved to LA ten years ago, and I hadn’t been back in the summer since I left. (Which is crazy, because summer in Alaska is beautiful and energizing!) The birch trees, the wild flowers, the rivers, the mountains, the sun that shines almost 24 hours a day, my family and friends … why had I been keeping such a distance?

Have you ever put up walls to someone or something, believing that you needed to do that to create something different?

That’s what I had done.

But this spring my boyfriend and I broke up, and as we walked through that change, I consciously chose NOT to put up walls to him. I cried a lot, and processed a great deal of sadness and grief, but I didn’t create walls and barriers of separation. And WOW did that create a lot!

I get to HAVE him, even though we are not together as a couple.
And, without those walls, I also get to have all of ME.  No separation.

That led to my trip home, and to having Alaska, my family. and my past without separation too.

What walls have you built to separate yourself from what wasn’t working for you?

What distance have you created that actually keeps you from receiving from everything in your life?

What barriers have you put up thinking that if you did you’d keep yourself from feeling pain?

What else is possible?

This tool of ‘no walls, no barriers’ is one of my favorite Access Consciousness tools, and it’s such a big one, I know it’ll keep expanding me through my lifetime. It feels counterintuitive (and it IS in this reality!), yet it always creates more for me when I practice it.

If you’re going through a break up with a job, a lover, or a place, try it.

When you want to get hard or create separation, don’t. 

Stay soft and vulnerable, be MORE present, and notice how much more awareness and energy that gives you. 

If you’d like to practice that with me, book a session or sign up for the next daily class I’m offering.

It’s 21 Days of Being the Dominant Energy in Your Life, and no walls/barriers is a foundational tool within our work.

You are the source of your life.

You can choose to create walls of separation, to compartmentalize, or to hold people and places at arm’s length.

Or you can choose to HAVE it all, and then create with it.

Choose more and be kind to yourself.

 


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Does your life work for you?

Posted on 6 June 2018

I have the interesting point of view that your life should actually work FOR you.

√ Your friendships should work for you. Create a Life that Works for You
√ The city you live in and the home that you’ve created should contribute to you.
√ Whatever your work in the world is, it should light your fire.
√ Whoever you sleep with should contribute to your body, and spending time with this person should make you more money.
√ What you’re creating as your body and your style should be fun for you.

Your life should work FOR you.

I know I’m using the world ‘should’ over and over here, and what I’m describing might seem kind of ideal, but come on…

It’s YOUR LIFE! It’s created based on YOUR choices!

If the major components of your life are not working FOR you, contributing to your joy and your glow, that’s crazy! I’ll tell you — they can and they should.

That’s why people hire me.

Because some moments you might look around your world and realize “this doesn’t work for me” or “I don’t like this” or “I’m giving but I’m not receiving from my life right now”. And if that’s where you realize you’re are, that’s the moment to ask some questions, expand your awareness, shift some energy, and change it!

Choose again.

Choose differently.

Be willing to uncreate something.
Be willing to receive what you haven’t been receiving.
Be willing to destroy it all, to laugh at it all, to stomp your foot, or drop your defenses and change it.
Again.

And again, and again and again…

Creating a life that works for you isn’t something you do once and then it’s good. It’s something you choose every day.

And a coach at your side who will challenge what you’re choosing, who will ask you questions, who will remind you that more is possible — that’s what I get to be for my clients.

Would having a coach on your team, contribute to you?

If so, choose it! Book some sessions: https://my.timetrade.com/book/MNQYL

Once a week, once a month, once a season? You don’t even have to know when we get started. You just start. You show up, bring your life to the table, and we go from there — into more.

Purchase an introductory 75 minute session for $150. We’ll record it. We’ll shift a lot of energy. You can listen to it again. You’ll have homework, more clarity, and a shift in energy that will start to change things even before we hang up the phone together.

And what else is possible?


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If you know there has to be MORE…

Posted on 1 May 2018

I teach these tools. They’re from a whole body of work that is known as Access Consciousness™. They’re all designed to empower you to know that you know.

That sounds so simple, but it’s really HUGE!

You KNOW! You have the capacity to be aware of what your choices will create even before you make them. Your first language is energy. You know stuff.

You are AWARE! You are aware of other people’s thoughts, of Earth, the future, beings without bodies, and all kinds of stuff that we can’t quantify or measure with our five physical senses.

You are potent and POWERFUL! Even though you’ve probably spent a lot of your life believing that you’re not.

I know it’s easy to say all of this, but I’m actually REALLY interested in you living it. Self-actualization theory is fascinating. But, BEING aware and powerful is where life gets fun.

Create a NEW FUTURE.-5So, I teach these tools. To my clients, in my online groups, in classes. And I use them in my own life. Every day.

If this kind of conversation is one you want to be in, if you want to be armed with a toolbox of consciousness tools, if you’re looking for FAR MORE potency than what you’ve found in all of your seeking, you can choose it!

This four day class — the Access Consciousness Foundation Class — it’s amazing! It’s four full days of conversation, processes, energy work, a big ass manual, and topics that are out of the box of normal.

It’s not a class you want to take if you like the box of this reality. It IS a class for people (like me!) who have always known that something else is possible and that this tiny little reality you see and touch and have been given as true has GOT to be bullshit.

There is a pre-req. But you have time to meet it. You can fly into LA for this class. You can consider it a life changing retreat of an experience. In my living room. On my couches. With an intimate group of people + me.

You get lots of attention. Your life gets lots of attention. Your body gets lots of attention. And everything changes.

I’ve seen it over and over… and I really love it!

Details HERE. You are INVITED! What would it take for you to join?


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What happens in a session with me?

Posted on 2 April 2018

When you not only start Monday with a kick ass client in a firework kind of session, but then she sends you a testimonial, unsolicited, just because — that’s an awesome start to the month! Anyone else want to book with me?

Here are her words:  “Holy shit, I just had my mind totally blown by Jessica’s magical medicine! I’ve been going through the most challenging few weeks of my life, and she helped me transform my perspective and truly appreciate all the GIFTS in all of it. I feel such a lightness, knowing and excitement about everything that has become possible thanks to this session! Jessica’s intuition, mad skillz and ability to see things that I would have never ever been able to see on my own (that are SPOT ON) create true Alchemy! You have mega SUPER POWERS, lady!! I will be back for more of your genius soon!”

What might YOU have to say after giving yourself the space to lay it all out, ask bigger questions, let the heavy shit go, know what you know, and perceive what’s possible? That’s what we do in sessions.

Phone or video. Doesn’t matter where you live (she lives abroad!). Doesn’t matter what you’re asking for, what your topics are, or whether you even know what you want to receive.

You’d book a session

.. to hear yourself
.. to acknowledge what you’re experiencing (good, bad or ugly)
.. to cut through the bullshit your head makes up
.. to ask questions
.. to create more
.. to know what’s true for you
.. to stop feeling the victim or the loser
.. to choose something better
.. to find the words for a tough conversation
.. to disconnect from your family agendas

Sometimes we talk to dead people.
Sometimes we do weird energy clearing stuff.
Sometimes we release old contracts.
Sometimes we cry or laugh or shout or put a plan on paper.

I never know what the heck is going to happen, but I’ve been coaching long enough to know that no topic is too hard and no situation is too dense that we can’t open a space for lightness and ease. If we choose it.

If YOU want a session, book it! You’re worth it. Your life is worth it. Your choice of ease, space, freedom and possibility is worth it.

30 minutes | $80
60 minutes | $150

Packages available.

BUT, heck, this week only, mention THIS post and book a session for $125. My spring gift to you.

Calendar HERE.

.... this is ME with earbuds in, coffee steaming, ready for my next client call.

…. this is ME with earbuds in, coffee steaming, ready for my next client call.


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Question, Choice and Possibility: a Taste of Access

Posted on 14 March 2018

Join me for a FREE zoom and let me share with you the quickest easiest Access tools I know to change reality and create something different — with ease.

Friday, March 16 at 12pm Pacific

Register here: https://tinyurl.com/march-friday-tasterQuestion, Choice and Possibilities

Bring your life to the table and we’ll apply the tools directly to it.

Question create. What is it to have the energy of question in your reality? Where do you think you are asking questions, but you aren’t? What questions can you ask to activate change in your world before you even do anything differently? Together we’ll craft questions specific to your life today, that will activate new possibilities right away.

Choice is always available. Where have you been feeling stuck and trapped? What choices are available that you haven’t been seeing? What if making a great choice isn’t as hard as you think it is? Let me share with you the energy of choice that isn’t nearly as significant or challenging as you’ve been taught.

Possibilities are infinite. The feeling that you’re stuck or limited is a lie. What possibilities can you perceive today before anything looks like it’s changing? Our questions on this zoom will open the door to possibilities. Follow the energy into more.

This is a free class, a taster for you of the tools I use with my clients, and every day in my own life to create more. How does it get any better than that?


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