With what energy are you taking that action?

Posted on 4 August 2022

Taking action is important, but who and how you’re being within the actions you take is really the key.

Every action you choose to take can be made from a variety of energies.

For example, are you taking actions to make more money?

You can do that from excitement and creativity, from a knowing of your worthiness and the abundance of the universe, with a generosity of spirit and a healthy eagerness that has you leaning in to whatever opportunity is in front of you.

Or …you can take actions to make money from lack or greed, insecurity or superiority, grasping or jockeying yourself into position at the expense of yourself and others in such a way that may very well create abundance, but never feels like fulfillment.

It matters who you are being and what energy you take your actions from.

It matters because it’s the difference between fulfillment and dissatisfaction.

Do you know many people who are fulfilled and happy?

Are you one of them?

I want you to be.

I want you to be in touch with yourself enough to know when you’re taking actions from an energy that is off-base from your highest intentions, so you can correct course your energy.

I want you to do what you do from character and integrity, with a heart open to yourself and others — not to be a pushover or a doormat, but a person of substance and clarity, grounded and rooted in intention.

I want you to make money if you want to make money, be a leader if you want to be a leader, accomplish great things in the world if you want to create great things — not because you need to in order to feel good about yourself, but because you feel so good within yourself you know you can create what you desire to create!

If you want that too, it takes attention and care.

It’s easy to fall into lower energies of ego and insecurity. That’s why attention to your own energy, posture and attitude matters. It’s the inner work that creates a satisfying outer world.

If you could use a series of sessions to help you clear and align to your highest path, schedule a consultation. I’d love to work with you to create that which fulfills you most.

In the meantime, check into yourself. Who and how are you being as you navigate your world this month? Drop in to a gentle awareness of yourself and shift ever so slightly to an energy and posture that feels good on the inside. The choice is always there.


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Feeling discontent is not a bad thing

Posted on 28 July 2022

If you’ve been feeling stuck and grumpy about aspects of your life you used to enjoy, take it as a sign that you’re close to a growth edge.

A season of discontentment often comes before a season of change.

It’s natural to grow beyond what used to thrill you — and growth is good! Don’t resist it, or you’ll harden. (Note: When you catch yourself sounding jaded, that’s a red flag! Don’t let that become a habit.)

Instead, let your discontentment point you in a new direction.

Maybe you’re feeling discontent with a position that is too small for you. Maybe you’re grumpy because you’ve already mastered where you are and you feel bored. Maybe your spirit is guiding you to step forward as a leader, add something new to your repertoire, or venture into new endeavors. Look beyond where you’ve been. New horizons are ahead.

If you were growing into becoming MORE of who you are, in what direction would you grow?

Growth comes as an impulse from within. Yes, it can feel scary, but it can also be exciting and deeply satisfying. A lot of that depends on how you be with it, and how you support yourself through change.

I’m often the co-pilot of my client’s crazy adventures in change. There at the edge of growth, we don’t have an exact guidebook or roadmap, but we remember principles:

* It is good and right to change.
* There are clues in your longings and desires.
* You can trust your impulses and Life itself to guide you.
* The unknown has gifts for you
* There’s so much more to discover and become than what you’ve known before.
* You’re here to expand and learn from all your life experiences, and growth brings you gold, if you let it.

Are you there at that edge of a new becoming?

Be brave. Get excited about who you will be next.

Pay attention to what you’re wanting, instead of what you’re hating. Acknowledge what no longer feels like a match to you and begin divesting yourself from those areas. Release your attachments. Make space.

As you let yourself grow into the next version of yourself, who will you become?

More confident, perhaps?
More open-hearted?
More certain and authoritative in your field?
More sure of your value and worth?
More joyful and receptive?
More sassy or spicy or brave?
More of a tone setter and less of a follower?

I want that for you. I want you to grow and thrive. I want you to be more expressed and more fulfilled. That’s not wishful thinking. It’s your natural trajectory if you let it be.

P.S. A season of growth is a good season for coaching. Stay out of fear and limited thinking and get visionary with me. I offer a 12 session package for $2,000 to support you through just such a season. Book a consultation HERE.


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When you know how to do the inner work, you can create anything.

Posted on 13 July 2022

Are you poised on a growth edge this summer?

Eager to create something new and different?

So many of us are!

That’s why I’m offering this summer’s Inner Work Mastermind — because having a container that holds space for your transformation and supports you through change is valuable.

I WANT you to be fully equipped and supported so you can grow into the next version of yourself!

The tools I have to share with you in this series are ones I haven’t shared before. I’m bursting to give them to you because they’re the best I know so far.

The world is chaotic, the pressure and uncertainty that surrounds us has only grown, but the capacity to do the inner work — to root deeply within and know yourself — that’s what creates resilience and thriving.

I want you to know yourself better, be more kind to yourself than you were ever taught to be, and from that caring place, choose who you become.

Manage your mind. Tend to your feelings. Align yourself so action is easy.

From there, the world becomes YOURS. It shows up different and manifesting is easy. That’s what this Mastermind is all about.

I haven’t offered a group like this in quite a while, so I’m particularly excited.

In a mastermind I give you coaching and support and get to know you really well.  You also get to learn from the others in the group who are doing the same work as you.  Through sharing and supporting each other, we all grow.

Interested? Read more and register here.

If it sparks you, and feels like what you’ve been needing, say YES and join us. Give yourself what is FOR you. We begin tomorrow.


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Are you fully onboard with what you desire?

Posted on 11 July 2022

When you want to create something new or different in your life, one of the first steps is to truly get yourself onboard for it. It doesn’t work just to want something — you’ll have to change your thinking and shift your internal state to have what you desire.

It sounds simple, but it can feel really hard!

The problem within all of us is that the internal reality we’re weaving is often complicated and messy. We have a lot of thoughts in our heads – often very contradictory ones.

We can be thinking “I can do this” at the same time we’re arguing for how we can’t.
We can get excited about possibilities one minute, but be weighed down by cynicism the next.
We can project a confident personality, while shaming ourselves on the inside.

All of that inner conflict is read by the world around us no matter what we’re trying to project.

When I coach clients who are interviewing for new jobs, I know that the amazing position that seems elusive, will only remain so until they’ve grown into the higher self-esteem and self-image that matches the job. The desire requires this growth. When they can steadily hold thoughts about themselves that are healthy and balanced, they authentically feel confident and certain in their capacities, and in that congruence they light up in their interview in such a way that is unmistakable. That’s when the job lands in.

It’s the same with my client’s love lives, and financial goals, and health issues. It’s how creation works. When our inner conflicts dissipate, our thoughts, feelings and actions line up, and the results created are a match to that growth!

I say all this to remind you – learning to work with yourself and tend to your inner realms is the juiciest work! It’s actually one of the most important skills you can develop. You can know yourself, comfort yourself, grow yourself, and create yourself anew – over and over, by becoming aware of your thoughts, noticing your feeling states and choosing who you become.

Think better thoughts.
Love yourself through your inner conflicts.
Create habits that help you do this.

Cleaning up your messy mind and directing yourself towards healthy states of being is work, but it pays off exponentially.

You can do this inner work in coaching sessions with me, but you can also learn some basic self-coaching skills and tend to yourself on the daily. This is what I’m teaching in the upcoming Inner Work Mastermind. I’d like to have you. Read more and register HERE.


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Comparison won’t help you…

Posted on 2 July 2022

I often catch my clients measuring themselves against unrealistic standards by which they determine that they are a failure, or an imposter, or just not good enough. Do you do that to yourself, too? It’s not helpful.

Our brains, using inflated examples of people doing better than us, will make up impossible benchmarks that leave us feeling shitty in comparison to who and what we think we should be.  But feeling badly about yourself based on THAT will not help you be happier, more authentic or more fulfilled.

It’s more helpful to remember that there is no comparison when it comes to you.

No one has had the particular set of life circumstances you have had. No one else was born with the specific line up of stars and parents and environment of your experience. No one has lived your life before!

Heck, it’s 2022! We’ve never lived through times like these. There is no guidebook for this adventure.

From that perspective, give yourself a pat on the back.

You’re NOT doing badly!  You’re figuring it out as you go. And if your path isn’t feeling great, get interested in yourself.

What are you feeling about yourself? (Is it valid?)
What are you thinking? (Is it helpful?)
What are you wanting more of or less of?
Where are you showing up authentically?
Where are you pretending?
Is the path you’re on healthy?
Is it kind?
What would feel better to you?

Put your interest here, and you’ll learn something about yourself, from yourself.

I’ll tell you over and over — your wisdom comes from within, and your inner guidance will steer you true. But you do have to do the inner work to focus, reflect and listen. Often that means pausing to clean up your untrue thoughts and quieting your self-judgment.

I’ll partner with you in that work when you’re in sessions with me. Or, join this summer’s Mastermind program, and I’ll teach you how to the inner work anytime you’re in a spiral of thoughts and feelings that are driving you crazy.

You’re here to be yourself – happy and fulfilled, not miserable or comparing yourself to others. Invest yourself in the directions that matter, and everything else will fall into place.

 

P.S. When you know how to manage your thoughts and tend to your feelings, you are unstoppable. In this summer’s Inner Work Mastermind, I’ll teach you how. Group programs offer big growth. We begin July 11. Read more and register HERE.

P.S. If you’re on the verge of some big change or ready to transform an area of your life, it’s a good time to invest in coaching. I offer a 12 session series for $2000. Interested? Your first step is to book a consultation. You’ll tell me where you’re at, I’ll tell you how coaching can help, and you’ll decide from there if now is the time.

 

 


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No blame. No shame. Just receiving.

Posted on 15 June 2022

I love loving my clients. If you’ve worked with me, maybe you recognize this. I get to be the one who receives everything my clients have to share and embrace them through it. No judgment. No shame. Just love and receiving.

It’s important, this space of unconditional listening and love. It’s neutral and kind and wise.

I see you’re here and it makes sense.
You make sense.
Let’s just be present together with what’s here right now.

We can’t just rush to feeling better or making different choices. First we have to accept — This is what’s here. Here’s where I am. Here’s what I feel.

From there, when we’re not hot with self-judgment or shame, we see more. We’re no longer deflecting or cringing or defending. We’re present to what’s here in a space of awareness. Now, more is possible.

I’ve learned so much from loving my clients. Just as I’ve learned so much from all the work I’ve done to love myself. This last year my inner voice has softened even more. I often find myself journaling:

I love myself.
I like myself.
I’m proud of myself.
I feel kindly towards myself.

This resets me. It plugs me in to resilience and presence. When I’m not longer running away from my failings, I can be curious about what they’re revealing.

I’m not completely over judging myself or feeling overly responsible and bad about not being perfect. But more and more I’m acknowledging myself just as I acknowledge my clients — I’m doing the best I can here. I’m not messing up. I’m just living a gloriously messy imperfect beautiful life.

I’ve needed people to model this for me. I’ve needed someone else to hold space for me that was kind and compassionate, so that I could heal and grow. This is what I offer you.

As a coach that I help clients strategize and think though their actions, but the base of all sessions with me is this — and unconditional loving and receiving of who you are so you can also receive yourself. Here lies authenticity and power.

Could you use some of this kindness in your life?

Are you ripe to recreate your relationship with yourself?

I offer a 12 session coaching series for transformation and change. Over the course of several months you meet with me regularly. We get clear on what you’re aiming to become and use the session series as your container for growth and manifestation.

If that interests you, book a consultation. This is a full hour for you to tell me about all that’s a challenge in your life and to look forward towards what you want instead. It’s free. It’s fun. It’s my offer to you.


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When you should give up…

Posted on 31 May 2022

When you’re tired and depleted, or find yourself deeply discouraged, surrender.

Give up trying. Give up effort. Give up fight.

Give up working hard to be positive. Give up the job of making the world a better place, of saving your loved ones, of being the best you…  Even give up your dreams. Offer them up to the Universe and be in the dark for a while.

In giving it all up, you may feel like you’re sinking. You are. Deeper into yourself. Deeper than your surface mind. Deeper than your surface concerns. Deeper than the expectations and standards you’ve erected for yourself that have shaped the identity you’ve been projecting.

There’s relief in loosening your grip. There’s healing in letting go.

Your ego will feel like it’s dying, but you’re not. You’re living.

Here’s where tears may rise.
Here’s where you exhale a sob or a sigh.

There may be grief. A wave of despair. An existential crisis. What is the point, after all?

It’s good to question. Get curious. Go back to ground zero and look again.

What is the point? And where have you missed the point in an effort to do, to try and to control?

Something in you is wanting to realign.
A deeper part of you is guiding you.

It’s whispering:
“Not that direction.
Slow down.
There’s something else here.
There’s an adjustment to be made.”

It’s precious to heed the inner impulse.
It’s wise to slow down.

Being tired is a message.
Being discouraged is a call to re-purpose yourself.

Don’t be afraid.

Stop and question your path.

Surrender your efforts in the places you’re trying too hard to make something happen that isn’t happening.

This creates space. Something new will arise.

I can’t tell you what it will look like or how you’ll emerge from this, but I can know with you that every point of discouragement and despair is a call to go inward. I can sit with you in the inquiry. I can hold the torch when you’re in the shadows. I can remind you – nothing is wrong here. You’re discovering an important clue to your path.

Trust and brave, Sweet Soul.

P.S. Are you in a time of deep questioning or transition or change? Book a consultation with me and lay it out. I offer a 12 session series for $2000, as a deeply grounded container for transformation and inner work. If this is what you need, allow yourself to receive it.

 


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The first life coach I hired…

Posted on 4 May 2022

Years ago, in the months before I left my former job, I hired a life coach for weekly sessions. A big transition was coming. I had chosen it! I was going to cash out my retirement, leave my career, move to Los Angeles, complete training to become a coach, and start my own business.

Was I crazy? Was I sure I wanted to do this? I had a lot to process.

I felt both excitement and waves of self doubt. Parts of me were so confident and clear. Other parts of me were scared to death. Coaching sessions helped me sort it all out so I could grow into the person I needed to become for this change.

My coach heard all of my inner craziness. She was a safe space for it. Week by week she’d listen with so much presence, I would find my calm and steadiness. When I’d lose my vision, she’d hold it. When I was judging myself, she’d reflect a kinder vision of myself back to me.

One day I showed up to my session paralyzed with fear. All the worst case scenarios were swirling in my head. I couldn’t control my thoughts. My coach helped me focus — she had me pull out each fear, name it, feel it, and imagine what I would do if it came true. With her, I let myself feel those big feelings, and as I faced them fully, they shifted. I left that session exhausted but calm, and those fears never came back with as much intensity.

Surprisingly to me, in these sessions we also ended up talking a lot about my grandma. Changing myself meant confronting the ingrained beliefs and patterns of my family system, and my relationship with my grandma was central to those patterns. Our dynamic was complicated. I loved her, but for many reasons, I also resented her. My coach helped me disentangle my identity from hers.

It was such an unexpected bonus that this series of coaching sessions I bought to prepare me for a giant transition in my career, completely transformed my relationship with my grandma. I found a new, cleaner love for her as I developed a clearer sense of myself. I’m so grateful for that because a few years later when my grandma passed away, I had no regrets with her. This is the power of doing your inner work.

I worked with my coach weekly for many months and kept in touch with her afterwards. Over the next few years I accomplished what I dreamed of when I made the choice to leave my job. The worst case scenarios did not come true. I’m grateful I was bold enough to take this path. I like who I’ve become.

Our sessions were a lifeline at the time – I looked forward to them eagerly each week — and I can honestly say that all those things my life coach helped me with over a decade ago are still paying dividends in my life. That’s the power of that investment.

Now I get to be for my clients what she was for me.

This spring I’ve had a number of clients in a similar transition time between jobs. I like holding space for that. I like helping my clients become people who up-level their career and negotiate higher salaries or flexible schedules or different responsibilities. I like helping them shift their self concept to become people who ask for more, make daring changes or pursue the dreams that honor their spirits.

Are YOU poised on the edge of transition?
Are you feeling a change coming?
Are you needing to find some inner strength or clarity that you haven’t fully accessed before?

If so, invest in support for yourself during this time. Coaching sessions help you face your fears, tend to your thoughts and find your solid footing on the inside.

Doing the inner work is always worth it, and I promise you, it will pay off in ways you can’t yet see.

I’m here for that and for you!

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If you’re interested in working together, let’s talk! I offer a free consultation to explore where you are and where you want to be, what growth edges you’re surfing and how coaching might support you. Book a consultation time here.

And, if you’re a former client ready for more inner work, schedule more sessions with me here.


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I want you to be centered

Posted on 7 April 2022

I want you to be the calm in the storm.

I want you to feel grounded, clear and embodied.

I want you to be centered.

Why?

Because when you’re centered, you are empowered.

You don’t have to default to people pleasing or capitulating or making nice in order to navigate other people’s agendas.

You don’t have to have push or pull to get what you want.

When you’re centered you walk through the world with an aura of inner strength and stability, and this changes every situation and environment and relationship you engage in.

From center you know what to do, what to say, when to act, and also, when to wait and listen and allow. You are smarter and wiser and more empowered to create win-wins – with ease!

From center you have access to your skills, your intuition and your heart.

People who live from center create a kinder, greater world. And the world needs more of that.

Living life from a centered state is like learning a new posture. It takes practice. When you know what it feels like, you’ll notice more quickly when you fall out of center, when you lean into someone else’s experience or get pulled into someone else’s agenda or sidestep what’s actually here. You’ll catch yourself. You’ll right yourself. And you’ll do it over and over again until it becomes your natural way of being.

That’s the point of our daily class this month, First, Get Centered. We’ll meet every morning for 22 days, live or by recording, to practice, observe, share our insights and adjust our way of being in the world. Class is $111. We begin Monday. Join us.

Note: I teach a handful of daily classes each year because they’re one of the biggest boosts to my clients. If you haven’t taken part in a daily class yet, come join us for this one! Read more and register HERE.


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When you’re ready to say enough is enough

Posted on 5 April 2022

I love when brand new clients, especially those who have never worked with a coach before, choose to invest in coaching. Typically they are a little nervous to work with me, but fed up enough with something in their life that they’re willing to be bold.  Hiring me is a big statement to themselves that they’re making a change.

On some level of their being by committing to a series of sessions they’re saying, “I’m important. This issue is important. I’m willing to change it. I believe things can get better.”

That might not be fully integrated into their self talk, but it’s there within them. And that’s our starting point.

When you begin, even just a little, to believe that you matter, your happiness matters, your life matters, and that things can get better, then things CAN get better. 

Your relationships, your job, your schedule, your finances, your life — all of it should work for you. Your life should suit you. If some aspect of your life doesn’t — if it drains you, is full of chronic problems, insults your spirit, or feels like a compromise of who you actually are — that isn’t healthy. And you can change that.

Everything can be changed.
Everything can be transformed into something that suits you better.

Sometimes it changes through tiny tweaks. Sometimes through radical overhauls. Sometimes from walking away and starting anew. But first it starts with you saying, “Enough. I’m changing this.” 

From that inner declaration a whole new set of possibilities emerge. From there you can examine how and why and who you’re being, and you can choose differently.

It’s work to change — both inner and outer — but it’s work that pays off In fulfillment, satisfaction and joy.

Is that you?

Are you feeling enough dissatisfaction or frustration to stop and center yourself on what really matters to you?

If so, I’m here for you. Book a free consultation. Tell me what’s not working for you, what you want instead, and what you feel is holding you back. I’ll offer you my full presence, everything I’ve learned from coaching so many others before you, and my full faith that you can have what you desire.

More is possible. It starts with believing that.

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P.S.  Would your life and relationships change if you were less reactive and more centered? Come join this spring’s class offering: First, Get Centered, and practice finding your center before you take action.  We start next week!  Read more and register here.

P.S.S. Are you a former client, ready for another deep dive, schedule more sessions here.


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