Are you asking big questions about your life?

Posted on 18 October 2018

Are you asking big questions about your life?
Are you looking under the surface and re-evaluating where you are and why?

If you’re questioning yourself and your life, give yourself the kindness of a listening ear.

Everyone needs to talk.

When you have the space to talk that out, it gets easier.

Hire a coach.

In a coaching session you explore the big questions.  You reach into the unknown.  You get curious about what else is possible.

You let the big questions to propel you forward into something greater.

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If you’re ready to dive into the big questions with support, book a session with me. Our first conversation is 75 minutes for $150.

Schedule here: https://my.timetrade.com/book/MNQYL


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Sometimes your old reality has to break…

Posted on 28 September 2018

What’s going on in your world? Anything changing?

It is in my world. Some of the change this year was change I knew was coming. Some of it has caught me by surprise. Can you relate?

My job, as I see it, is to stay present and be aware through all the shifts and changes. The earth can move under my feet. Structures of my life can dissolve. And, I can still stand tall, be flexible, and stay conscious through it all.

One of my favorite teachers, Dain Heer says, “Sometimes your old reality has to break before your new reality shows up.”

Yep! It’s not a bad thing… even if it temporarily rocks you.

I’ve been lifting my gaze to the horizon a lot, asking a lot questions. Where am I going with my life? What am I aiming for?

Big questions actually steady me. They guide me forward and help me navigate change.

What’s important to me?
What am I creating as my future by my choices?
What could I have five, ten, fifteen years from now if I head towards it now?
And what else could I choose that will expand me, add to my life, bring me joy?

I like asking these questions. I like perceiving the ‘next grandest version of my life’ ahead of me in the future. And as I perceive it, I know I’m bringing it to life. My future begins to brighten and beckon me forward. I follow that energy and it informs my path now.

That’s what I’ve been working on — asking a lot of questions about my future, perceiving what’s possible, and spending time in that energy. I’ve done it before — I’ve aimed for a whole new reality and a very different version of my life. I created what I envisioned, even thought at some point it seemed impossible. I bet you have too!

Is it time to vision again? To set course towards a future that excites you? If it is, join me for a 5 week Futuring Class in October or book some sessions.

If your view of the future doesn’t light you up and pull you forward, pause and ask yourself more questions.

Point yourself another direction. Choose greater.

It’s your life. You get to create it.


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Is your whole life changing?

Posted on 28 September 2018

When you’re riding the waves of change, get support.

You’ve got the strength inside of you to walk through whatever comes up in your life.

You can meet even the most unexpected circumstances with inner resilience. You can flow with change, instead of resisting it.

You don’t have to have all the answers. You don’t have to feel totally sane all the time.

Your Life Coach will remind you of what you’re aiming for. In sessions, you’ll lay it all out and look at it together. You’ll get present to what’s really important. You’ll perceive the bigger picture. You’ll access your knowing. You’ll find your feet under you and stand up tall.

The ground beneath you may be different, but after a big change, you just may be more YOU.

#HireACoach #LifeCoaching #GiveYourselfSupport #BookSessionsWhenYouNeedThem

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If you’ve never worked with me before, schedule a 20 minute phone consultation HERE.

Or just hop into my client calendar HERE and we’ll dive in!


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A couple of books I keep recommending to clients…

Posted on 18 September 2018

I’m a big fan of books, and the impact they can have on our thinking.  So many times a book has expanded me into realms I didn’t know where possible. So I read a lot. And I recommend many books to clients.  This month, these are the two books I’m mentioning the most.

I purchased Never Split the Difference: Negotiating As if  Your Life Depended On It by Chris Voss because it kept coming up in my ‘recommended’ book titles on Audible. I had no idea why — it didn’t LOOK like a book I’d pick out or enjoy… but, it’s so cool to be surprised! Within the first chapter I was a raving fan of the author — a former FBI hostage negotiator — for his insight on the dynamics of a conversation. Each chapter had tools for me to practice — like, creating a conversation in which people can say no to me over and over, so they get to be in control, without pressure, and just may be more willing to say YES when I’d really like them to say yes. It works brilliantly! And, while this is about negotiation and manipulation, it’s also kind. When we can communicate with people in a manner that honors and acknowledges what they require, MORE is created! I wouldn’t mind living in a world in which Chris Voss is negotiating on behalf of ‘we the people’.

This Is Day One: a Practical Guide to Leadership That Matters by Drew Dudley is sweet, raw and an easy read, yet it will leave you inspired and more present in your life. As a leadership book, it’s not militaristic or rigid — it’s caring and expansive. Drew challenged my laissez faire attitude about some major aspects of my life. He’s a brilliant story teller, and the characters he introduced me to touched me deeply. He also plays with questions — ones you can ask each day about what you chose. These have worked their way into my daily routine: How was I kind today? What did I choose that was caring for my body? In what ways did I nurture my business today? As I ask myself those questions at the end of the day, I measure and acknowledge what really matters.


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Are you at a crossroads?

Posted on 21 August 2018

Are you at a crossroads?  Do you have some big decisions to make?

Can you see your choices clearly? Or is it all a bit muddled to you?

Perhaps you see where you want to be, but you can’t see how you’ll get there.

This is a good time to hire a coach.

You’ll lay it all out. You’ll unpack the options. You’ll get clarity on what’s in front of you.

What is the next step?

Who do you need to be as you take it?

What can you create that works better for you and for everyone else too?

As you talk it through with your coach, you gain perspective. 
You lift your head higher. 
You perceive more possibilities than you would on your own.

Your inner fears don’t dictate your actions. 
Your inner knowing does.

With your coach, you get vulnerable, and from there you are more conscious.

It’s the gift you give yourself that makes everything else you’re facing easier.

Over time you do get to where you wanted to go. 
And you’re proud of how you got there.

 

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Are YOU at a crossroads? Do you have a mountain of decisions to make?

Book a session with me. Our first conversation is 75 minutes for $150.

Schedule here: https://my.timetrade.com/book/MNQYL


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Do you approach as a critic?

Posted on 14 August 2018

Have you noticed that how you approach anything matters a great deal?

If you lead with criticism or barge in with a strong-arm agenda, you’re likely to create conflict.

Yet, when you approach anything — a person, place, situation, animal, or your own body! — with curiosity and no judgment, you create a spacious field of possibility.

Say hi.
Acknowledge what’s there.
Be spacious and open.
Have interest and curiosity.

What does that create?

Relaxation. Possibility. A listening and receiving from which something new can be created.

Really. Try this with an animal. With your boss. With the TSA agent at the airport. With your mother. With a baby. With your garden.

And Friends… try it with your BODY!

How often have you greeted your body with a steel intent to shape it into something else?
Or a desire to mask what it really looks like?
Or a frustration at it’s apparent dysfunction?

Does your iron will over your body really create more?  Or does it actually create a war?

Try something different.

In last month’s Dominant Energy class, we played with the potent energy of softness and kindness, and one of my students requested that in our next class we focus this energy on our bodies. She even gave me the name of this new class — Happy with My Body. And so it is. We begin this week.

We’ve got tools, and ten weeks to practice choosing something new with our bodies. I’ll guide you with weekly calls and assignments. Does this light you up?

Feel into the possibility.

If you approached your body differently, and actually chose to be happy with it, would that change your body?

Might it actually create the space for your body to contribute to you, respond to your requests, or heal with ease?

If those questions excite your body, say yes and join the Happy With My Body class.

We begin our pre-launch on Friday, August 17 and continue for ten Mondays in a row.

Also, as a warm up to that class, I’m offering two FREE calls this week — You and Your Body Relationship Coaching Zooms — and I’d love to have you join us.

Click HERE to read more and register. 

Lead with kindness, and approach with gentleness.

And what else is possible?


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Are you too hard on yourself?

Posted on 6 August 2018

Sometimes a coaching session is like a confessional. People tell me things they haven’t told other people. They lay it all out, because I’m listening without any judgment.

And here’s something I have learned from years of listening….

People who learn to laugh at the disasters they’ve created or the crap they have chosen can change it with far more agility than people who beat themselves up for it.

Judgment is rigid.
Laughter is an easy energy for pivoting.

Often, as a coach, that’s what I provide. A wider and lighter perspective. And the easy space of allowance in which laughter is possible.

“What did you do? 
Wow! That was a mess!”

And we giggle.

“What did you say? 
Ouch! That did not calm anything down, did it?”

And we snort.

We, as the people we are, are funny. Sometimes we do ALL the wrong things. Sometimes we act like total fools. Sometimes our grasping, our insecurities, our tempers run the show.

And so it is…

Does it have to be a big deal?

Find yourself cute.

And choose again.

Apologize if it’s needed.

Make amends if that will create more.

And CHOOSE AGAIN!

Pivot into a different energy, a different choice, a different creation.

You get as many shots at this things called YOUR LIFE as you choose. And just because you’d re-do it a different way if you had a chance, doesn’t make you a failure.

You learn as you go. And that’s just how it is.

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Interested in working with me? Book a time. First session is $150.
 

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When you’re on the verge of a big change…

Posted on 23 July 2018

Are you on the verge of something big and exciting in your life?

Are you dreaming up your next big adventure?

When you’re about to veer off from the beaten path, you want to talk it out with someone who will share your enthusiasm WHILE asking you questions to help you see it all more clearly.

Sometimes friends and family have too many agendas to be that space for you — at least in the beginning.

Not everyone is adventurous in the way that you are.
Not everyone gets you completely.

That’s why you talk it out with your coach.

You get clear on the energy of what you’d like to create next.
You feel into the possibilities.
You notice what is light for you (and what isn’t).
You trust yourself and your instincts.
You trust Life to blow you away with miracles as you step forward.
….and you celebrate it all!

It’s your life.

Why shouldn’t it be an adventure?

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Interested in working with me? Book a time. First session is $150.

Click HERE to schedule.

 

 


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This summer I gave myself Alaska

Posted on 8 July 2018

Happy July, Friends!

It’s HOT in LA, and we’re doing the best we can to keep our house cool. My cat is barely moving, and I am sunburned from a day at the beach yesterday with my girlfriends.

And, also, I am so grateful!

I live in this city I’ve chosen to live in. I do work that I love with people I enjoy. And, I like who and what I am. There’s a congruency between my life and me that I didn’t know was possible even a few years ago.

Much of this gratitude I’m being, has been the gift of a visit home to Alaska last month. I moved to LA ten years ago, and I hadn’t been back in the summer since I left. (Which is crazy, because summer in Alaska is beautiful and energizing!) The birch trees, the wild flowers, the rivers, the mountains, the sun that shines almost 24 hours a day, my family and friends … why had I been keeping such a distance?

Have you ever put up walls to someone or something, believing that you needed to do that to create something different?

That’s what I had done.

But this spring my boyfriend and I broke up, and as we walked through that change, I consciously chose NOT to put up walls to him. I cried a lot, and processed a great deal of sadness and grief, but I didn’t create walls and barriers of separation. And WOW did that create a lot!

I get to HAVE him, even though we are not together as a couple.
And, without those walls, I also get to have all of ME.  No separation.

That led to my trip home, and to having Alaska, my family. and my past without separation too.

What walls have you built to separate yourself from what wasn’t working for you?

What distance have you created that actually keeps you from receiving from everything in your life?

What barriers have you put up thinking that if you did you’d keep yourself from feeling pain?

What else is possible?

This tool of ‘no walls, no barriers’ is one of my favorite Access Consciousness tools, and it’s such a big one, I know it’ll keep expanding me through my lifetime. It feels counterintuitive (and it IS in this reality!), yet it always creates more for me when I practice it.

If you’re going through a break up with a job, a lover, or a place, try it.

When you want to get hard or create separation, don’t. 

Stay soft and vulnerable, be MORE present, and notice how much more awareness and energy that gives you. 

If you’d like to practice that with me, book a session or sign up for the next daily class I’m offering.

It’s 21 Days of Being the Dominant Energy in Your Life, and no walls/barriers is a foundational tool within our work.

You are the source of your life.

You can choose to create walls of separation, to compartmentalize, or to hold people and places at arm’s length.

Or you can choose to HAVE it all, and then create with it.

Choose more and be kind to yourself.

 


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Does your life work for you?

Posted on 6 June 2018

I have the interesting point of view that your life should actually work FOR you.

√ Your friendships should work for you. Create a Life that Works for You
√ The city you live in and the home that you’ve created should contribute to you.
√ Whatever your work in the world is, it should light your fire.
√ Whoever you sleep with should contribute to your body, and spending time with this person should make you more money.
√ What you’re creating as your body and your style should be fun for you.

Your life should work FOR you.

I know I’m using the world ‘should’ over and over here, and what I’m describing might seem kind of ideal, but come on…

It’s YOUR LIFE! It’s created based on YOUR choices!

If the major components of your life are not working FOR you, contributing to your joy and your glow, that’s crazy! I’ll tell you — they can and they should.

That’s why people hire me.

Because some moments you might look around your world and realize “this doesn’t work for me” or “I don’t like this” or “I’m giving but I’m not receiving from my life right now”. And if that’s where you realize you’re are, that’s the moment to ask some questions, expand your awareness, shift some energy, and change it!

Choose again.

Choose differently.

Be willing to uncreate something.
Be willing to receive what you haven’t been receiving.
Be willing to destroy it all, to laugh at it all, to stomp your foot, or drop your defenses and change it.
Again.

And again, and again and again…

Creating a life that works for you isn’t something you do once and then it’s good. It’s something you choose every day.

And a coach at your side who will challenge what you’re choosing, who will ask you questions, who will remind you that more is possible — that’s what I get to be for my clients.

Would having a coach on your team, contribute to you?

If so, choose it! Book some sessions: https://my.timetrade.com/book/MNQYL

Once a week, once a month, once a season? You don’t even have to know when we get started. You just start. You show up, bring your life to the table, and we go from there — into more.

Purchase an introductory 75 minute session for $150. We’ll record it. We’ll shift a lot of energy. You can listen to it again. You’ll have homework, more clarity, and a shift in energy that will start to change things even before we hang up the phone together.

And what else is possible?


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