When things aren’t working out the way you think they should…

Posted on 8 October 2019

Not everything in your life needs to work out.
Not every job is for you.
Not every relationship is going to be idyllic.

And that’s not wrong.

You’re not wrong.

Many things in your life, despite your effort or best intentions, will not turn out the way you think they should.

Don’t judge yourself for that. In fact, if you do judge yourself, you’ll miss the point.

Experiencing what doesn’t suit you gives you more clarity about what does. It’s how you attain wisdom. It grows you.

Ask yourself:

How is this a gift?
What am I learning here?
What new vision or desire is this giving me?

Down the road, you’ll have even more perspective, but for now, relax. If you need to quit, break up or move away from something you’ve been trying to force into perfection, then you will. And it will be okay.

Give yourself credit for your resilience. Trust the process.

Life is for you, not against you.

If you could use support and a no-judgment zone, that’s what I offer. Book some sessions and we’ll shine light on it together. But in the meantime, give yourself the time and space to be where you are.

The more you relax, the more you’ll know.


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What stories and scripts are you using to create your life?

Posted on 2 October 2019

Are the stories you’re telling creating the life you want to live?

Maybe they’re not!

A few months ago I realized I had slipped into telling a story about my business that was pretty ‘meh’.  People would ask, “How’s your business?” and I would say ‘fine’ and change the subject.

I’ve been coaching full time for ten years, so it’s normal for it to not have the same luster it once had, right?

Hmmm… That’s one way to look at it.

I heard my tone and noticed my words.  They weren’t a lie, but they also weren’t totally true.  I realized — I could do better.

Actually, I love my work.  I love that when I talk to people their worlds expand, their energy changes, and they’re grateful for that.  My clients are wonderful people, and being on their team is a delight!   My business is awesome. It’s a path I created that allows me to contribute to the world. I am grateful!

That is a different story.  It feels so much better because it acknowledges the work, my clients, my business and myself.  And it’s TRUE!

The thing is, I didn’t revise my story with a fake energy. That enthusiasm was there, it was just buried under some internal ‘blahs’ and unconsciousness.  But the revision is important.  What I lead with, is what I generate.

I want to be conscious of the stories I’m telling and how I’m telling them.

If I tell stories that begin with complaints, I am setting a tone in my life that will generate more of that.  If I tell stories that are sparse on appreciation, then I become less aware of the gifts of my life.

The years I described myself as uncoordinated and unathletic — I was.
The years I complained about men — those were rough years with men.
The years I told stories about being an outsider — I was the outsider.

Sure, I had circumstances and experiences that backed up my stories, but other evidence was ALSO there.  And I was ignoring it.

What am I choosing to highlight?
What am I focusing on?
What am I declaring to be the truth of my life?

It’s my choice.  And it’s also yours.

If you’re telling stories that are not creating the life you want to live, come revise your narratives with me.

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Stories & Scripts, October’s online life skills class begins Friday, October 4.

It’s five classes in a month.  We meet by zoom or phone.  Each class is recorded and is yours to keep.

The class is $149 and it just might be exactly what you’re higher self has been asking for.

Read more HERE.

Or just say yes and register.

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Did my stories spark you to consider your stories? Ask yourself:

  • Have I typically cast myself as an outsider or an insider?
  • Do I lead with what went wrong or what went right?
  • When I speak of myself, do I do it with judgment or self-compassion?
  • Do my stories generate new possibilities or perpetuate problems?

Again… this class will not be about by-passing your feelings or sugar-coating your experiences, but it will challenge you to revise your stories to be empowering narratives.


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Who’s on your list?

Posted on 24 September 2019

I have a client with a big job interview today. In a session yesterday, she told me that she’s worried that she’s not in her best form right now. What if she shows up to the interview and she’s not as bright, confident, and bad-ass as she can be? That made her even more nervous; I could hear the anxiety rising as she played out that scenario.

As I’m on her team, I pulled her back from that edge with this reminder — “You’ll do your best, you haven’t bombed an interview yet, and even if you do, it’s okay. You don’t have to be perfect all the time for things to work out.”

That helped. Yet, sometimes it’s hard enough to calm your own anxiety, much less remember what’s awesome about you. So, we made a list of people who think she’s awesome — people who see her with eyes of love, respect, and appreciation.

I was on that list, of course, along with a good group of girlfriends, a few close colleagues, people she’s mentored, former supervisors, a family member or two, and even a close friend who died. The list felt good to her, and evoking their perspective easily reminded her of who she is.

Who would be on YOUR list?

* Who’s got your back?
* Who reminds you of what’s great about you?
* Who can make you laugh even when you’re in the dumps?
* Who thinks you are awesome?
* Who believes in you?
* Who can testify to your talent?
* Who can you count on to be a good reference?
* Who can you call on to help you reset?
* Who gives you real hugs?
* Who inspires you to grow and celebrates your success?
* Who would you want at your side in an emergency?
* Who is hopeful about your future no matter your circumstance?

The people who give you any or all of that — put them on YOUR list. They’re on YOUR TEAM.

You can cultivate a bigger team if your list seems small. You can strengthen your team but plugging into it more often. You can appreciate your team members and receive even more from them by reaching out virtually or physically. (Take a quick moment to send out some love and gratitude right now!)

Does just THINKING of these people lift you into a higher sense of yourself and life? How do they see you? How do they see your life? How do they love you? Have some of that. Seriously —HAVE IT!

Use your team to keep you lifted, and if you need a life coach on your team, hire me! I’m here, and I’ve got more than enough optimism, perspective and kindness to share with you.

You’re not alone. Be supported.

P.S. Put me on your team! You can:

* Book a free consultation to talk about working together.
* Book some coaching sessions and find your inner clarity.
* Join e in LA for intimate workshops (The House of Healing is this Saturday the 28th)
* Or sign up for a virtual class (Stories & Scripts begins Oct 4)


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Pausing doesn’t slow you down… it paves the way.

Posted on 21 August 2019

I did a session last week with a client who was getting for a pitch at Warner Brothers. She emailed this morning to tell me how well it went and how much fun and ease she had in it. I celebrated that with her! It was a BIG DEAL. And, also I wasn’t surprised. She’d readied herself.

When something big is in front of you, honor yourself with a pause.

What do I feel in my body about this?
What do I know?
What do I want to create here (for me, for them, for all of us?)?
How might I show up to create that?

Give yourself the space to find your center, to access that energy, to have your clarity. Then step forward gently… You can’t predict what will be created, but being present with yourself as you walk through that pitch, that interview, that meeting, that family gathering, that conversation — THAT is gold.

And you being centered, clear and present — that changes the room.

Take those questions above and use them. Then let me know what they create for you!

If you’d like support getting ready for the next big thing in front of you, book some sessions or sign up for my next daily practice class, Pause & Know. I’m here for you.


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Sessions Are For You

Posted on 10 July 2019

Sessions are for you. They’re your place to lay it all out. What’s in your head? What are you believing? What are you thinking? What story are you telling? And is it even true?

I’ll ask you questions and listen deeply. Together we’ll follow the energy.

Where might you be pushing too hard?
Where are you controlling what isn’t yours to control?
Where can you speak up?
Where can you let go?

Sometimes you need someone with you, not getting lost in the story or the feelings, helping you see it all with more objectivity. You can climb to the balcony to view your choices from a broader and bigger perspective — in fact you can get really good at doing that! — but, sometimes it hard to make it up there on your own. That’s why you talk it out with me.

I love this work! What we create together when we take the high view, always excites ms.

You can give up the struggle.
You can transform the problem.
You can find the wisdom and the energy inside of you to take action.
You can stop judging yourself (or others).
You can set a new tone that shifts everything.

That’s what sessions give you – the remembrance that you can and the energy to do it.

 

Start with a 4 SESSION SERIES

4 / 60 min phone sessions

$497


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Did anyone ever tell you that it’s okay to like yourself?

Posted on 12 June 2019

How are you feeling about yourself?

On a scale of 1 – 10, where’s your self-esteem at?

Do you like you?

See, I ask this, because I know that when you DO like you, you’re far more resilient and life is easier.

I keep catching my clients in low self-esteem patterns. When they are excessively apologetic, lingering in self-doubt, shrinking back in the face of conflict/disagreement/accusation, or thinking poorly of themselves, I’m pretty good at calling it out — that’s low self-esteem. And it’s not necessary!

If someone else doesn’t like you, or is unhappy with you, or thinks you are doing something wrong, you could just receive that as information, not as devastation.

If things are not going the direction you wanted, that doesn’t mean you did anything wrong, but it IS information that will guide you.

Get it?

You don’t have to feel other people’s opinions or messy life circumstances as an indictment of you — it’s just life, it’s just opinions, it’s just information.

Do you perceive that neutrality?

As I see it, you can only have that neutrality if you’re not already in the hole with yourself. A healthy self esteem lets you be there: observing, receiving, playing with all the energies of your life.

Maybe you weren’t TOLD that you were awesome, often enough.

Maybe you didn’t know that your most powerful place was inside of you — centered and confident.

Maybe you were encouraged to give yourself up for other people, to listen to outside voices as your authority, to step outside of your place of power over and over and over… until it became your norm.

But you can choose again. Stop it. Choose for just a moment to access the energy of self-respect, self-centeredness, and self-confidence. And then what do you know?

I know — it takes practice, as consciousness does. But also, with my clients, when I point out that they are exhibiting low self-esteem and I ask them to step into healthy self esteem for a moment — they can and they do!

Even a moment of self-respect, a power pose, a breath to re-center to YOUR truth can change everything.

Try it. Repattern yourself.

You can also book sessions with me about this. Or you can sign up for the upcoming class, inspired by this topic – it’s called Audaciously You! and it’s a 4 week class to up level your self-esteem that starts June 18.

Details HERE. I’d love have you join!

 


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Summer Coaching Special!

Posted on 4 June 2019

Need a breakthrough, a plan, a change of direction? You can have that!

Choose my SUMMER COACHING SPECIAL and receive…!

:::: A VIP Day ::::

Sit down with me for a full morning or afternoon of coaching. I’ll get out the paper and pens. You’ll lay it ALL out for us to look at.

💥 Together we’ll ask the big questions and seek the highest view.
💥 We’ll look at the things you’ve avoided, face the parts that are scary, and dissipate those limiting beliefs that keep you stuck.
💥 We’ll vision. We’ll follow the energy into greater possibility, joy, ease and freedom.
💥 We’ll bring your body into it.
💥 And we’ll activate that new reality you’re more than ready for.

Yes, it’ll be intense, but it will also be fun! 🌈

:::::: Plus 3 Support Sessions :::::

After our VIP day, you’ll have the energy and the focus, and then you’ll need to LIVE it. Use your follow up sessions to keep tapping back into the new reality you’re asking for, to tweak your focus, and to energize you for aligned action.

These sessions as 40 minutes by phone or zoom to be used over the rest of your summer. Additional sessions can be purchased as needed.

 

Did I create this package for you? If so, receive it!

 

VIP Half Day
+ 3 follow up sessions

$597

 

Note: I’m offering ten of these packages this summer. Once they’re gone, they’re gone. And no, the price will never be lower!


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Do you know what you’re aiming for?

Posted on 29 May 2019

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Where in your life do you not feel free?

Posted on 19 May 2019

Did you know that I’m offering one day workshops at my home in Glendale twice a month?

Part of my vision this year has been to create more space for in person gatherings — in addition to the phones sessions and online class I offer.  Sometimes we need to connect face to face, eye to eye, and bring our bodies into our work.

In these workshops, you have the space to clear your head, become more present to what’s really sticking you, and then experiment with choice.

You enter the question: What energy can I embody, that if I embody, will change this whole dynamic?

Together we help you find that energy, BE it, and walk out the door as THAT!

From there, everything is different.  There’s ease, flow, and dynamics in your life change as if by magic.

Can you tell how much I love this work?

This month’s workshop is House of Liberation.  I invite you to come play!

Saturday, May 25 from 10am – 4pm in the Glendale area of Los Angeles.

Is there an area of your life in which you feel imprisoned, stuck, or like you have no choice?  Have any people in your life who feel like your personal jailor?

If you’re feeling less than free in ANY area of your life, bring it to the House of Liberation and workshop it with me. Read more HERE and register.

Note: These workshops are high level VIP group coaching days with 4 participants maximum.  If you don’t make it to this one, stay tuned for next month’s.


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Some people complain, others appreciate.

Posted on 16 May 2019

Quick tool — ask yourself, “what reality am I choosing right now?”

Is it a reality of joy or lack? Cheerfulness or grumpiness? Having or not having?

Already today I’ve talked to three clients who opened their conversation with me with a celebration of the rain we’re getting in LA today. “It’s beautiful.” “It feels so soft and sweet this morning”. “I like this rain.”

They could have also led with a complaint about rain in May, or grumbling that it’s been a while since we had a warm and sunny day. That was the conversation that filled the room at my pilates class last night. It set a very different tone.

Get this? You can approach anything as a gift or a wrongness. Your choice. Your reality.

What reality are YOU in?

There are MANY realities operating simultaneously in your vicinity. The person next to you could be in a reality of wrongness, blame and shame. The person across the aisle from you could be in a reality of gratitude and appreciation for the little things going right. These two people will have very different days, based on what they are choosing to perceive. They might experience the same events, but they’ll experience them differently! And life will create with them according to the tone THEY are setting.

You’ve got that choice too. Catch yourself when you’re in a reality of lack, or poverty, or victimhood.

Rise up. Choose again.

This takes practice. If you want to get better at pivoting out of a low vibe into a creative vibe, you can! You can get REALLY good at that and your whole life will change accordingly.

Put up a sticky note — What reality am I in? Catch yourself at choice points. Shift your focus, your attitude and/or your attention and change your experience.

And if you want a partner in that, I’m here! Book a session or take a class with me. We grow better together.

 


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