Questions for year end reflection

Posted on 29 December 2021

I love these days between the Christmas and New Years. I like that it’s chilly. I like lighting candles in the evening. I like creating coziness on dark nights and reflecting. What was this year for me?

I’ve also been doing end of year sessions with clients, and reflecting with them. It’s rich to look back and acknowledge what we’ve lived through. By acknowledge I mean give it all a nod and show it some respect. Appreciate. Grieve. Celebrate. Reassess. Acknowledging gives us a broad view and softens our gaze in such a way that we can sense patterns and trajectories, themes and lessons. It helps us see what’s emerging and how we’re growing, and lead us towards what we’re called to next.

Here are questions you can sit with — with your journal or a beloved:

  • What did you experience in the last year that was hard and challenging? Did you live through some difficulties? Did you have times of the year in which Life took you to your knees? What did these challenges teach you? Did they crack you open and make you more tender? Did they forge new resiliency in you? Are you stronger now or perhaps still healing?
  • Where was the joy in your year? Can you recall moments of satisfaction and happiness? Who was present? What filled you and delighted you? Where did you create space for play and adventure? What nourished you at the level of heart and soul? What do you want more of?
  • Where did your energy and attention go? To whom did it go? What was asked of you? Did your priorities match your values? f you had a re-do what might you have chosen instead?
  • In what areas are you more confident? In what areas are you more humble? Are you becoming a person you like to be?
  • When you feel into the wisest parts of you, what do they tell you about the path forward? What are you longing for? What are your heart’s desires? What new possibilities do you see? Who do you want to become next?

Instead of making New Year’s goals or resolutions, aim for something a little softer, with more room for the unexpected – a word or theme that encapsulates a deep intention.

When you have yours, find ways to anchor it in your consciousness. Perhaps with a piece of jewelry, a playlist, a write up in the front page of a new journal — or share it with me and let it be the foundation of our work together this year.

I wish you warmth and comfort as you end this year. May you feel at peace with what has been and who you have become.

 


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What is YOUR joy?

Posted on 9 December 2021

My grandma, who lived to be 100 years old, used to say “joy joy joy” repeatedly. It was a mantra of hers, and everyone who knew her knew it. In this holiday season that mantra is in my head.

Personally, I feel like joy is a big part of the meaning of life.

…My Monday night dance class just started back up again indoors for the first time since the pandemic began. That’s my joy!
…The holiday tradition of baking and decorating Christmas cookies with my niece and nephew is my joy.
…My house lit up with lights and candles each evening after the sun goes down so early — that’s joy.
…My morning turmeric latte in a big ass mug is joy too.

The things that are my joy are the things that nourish me.

Noticing what’s joy to me is important.
Noticing what isn’t, is valuable too.

I had a few intentions for this month that were feeling heavy and unclear. When I slowed down and got present with them, I realized they were no longer lighting up for me. Not joyful. And actually not necessary. I let those go.

The thing about joy is that it’s not superfluous, it’s essential to our spirit

Joy takes us out of our head and into the moment of now. It can be found in small moments as well as big ones. And no, It’s not selfish to prioritize joy. It’s wise.

What is YOUR joy?
Where can you prioritize joy this month?
What can you create this holiday season that is nourishing and joyful for you (and your loved ones too)?

This season may be a full one for you… but don’t get so caught up in the busy pace that you miss the moments that will fill and delight you.

Another joy for me is sessions, and I have openings for my current client all month long. I also have a Year End Coaching Special for those of you who had an intense year and want to process it before stepping into 2022. Details below.


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Year End Coaching Special

Posted on 2 December 2021

We’ve arrived at December — the last month of the year. How are you doing?

For so many, this year has been a lot! 2020 rocked us for sure, but 2021 may have felt uniquely exhausting. As I coach I’m seeing how much people need the space to process and feel, to lift their heads and survey the landscape, and eventually to remember their own state of empowerment to choose and create.

If you could use some support for that, book some year end sessions with. me. I’ve designed a 3 session package as a guided series for healing and renewal — to ready you for January and a fresh start to a new year.

This series is for you if…

… you know this year has grown you, but you haven’t had a chance to process the lessons.
… you’ve been feeling cynical and defeated and you know that’s not you.
… you’ve been too overwhelmed to think of what you could choose next.
… you WANT to lighten up and feel clear in intention for 2022.
… you know there’s a lot to grieve and feel, and you need some space for that.

Come, lay it down with me. I’ll hold the space for you to feel what’s in your heart, listen to your inner wisdom, and ask the questions that tap you back into vision and clarity.

In session 1, you’ll MINE THE GOLD with me.  What happened that was hard, what were the gifts, and how can you let it all be gold for you?

In session 2, we’ll explore what’s there to RELEASE, forgive, and surrender. We’ll also begin explore what’s alive in you as your desires and dreams so you can begin to RE-VISION.

In session 3, you’ll feel into the future and activate a CLEAR INTENTION.  We’ll discuss how to embody and align with that vision and set you up to step forth into 2022 with lifted gaze and open heart.

Sessions are 60 minutes long by phone, can be recorded upon request and must be used by Jan 18, 2022.

$397

To register, send payment:
Via Paypal at paypal.me/jessicacolp
Or Venmo (@Jessica-Colp)
Or Zelle (jess@jessica.colp.com)

And book your first session HERE.


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The gift of shingles…

Posted on 8 November 2021

I’m at home with my cat beside me, healing from a bout of shingles. I had no clue what shingles were before this experience and I misdiagnosed myself as having a bad reaction to hair dye. Nope, this was shingles and neuralgia and pain so bad I could only cry, leading me to Urgent care visits via video appointment (thank you, Covid-era convenience), the right prescription for me, friends checking in and bringing me soup, and my mom in Alaska requesting selfies twice a day so she could measure the progress of the blisters on my forehead with me.

Being knocked down flat like this is humbling, but coming out of it feels like being reborn.

I’ll take that.

My new face isn’t fully here yet. I’m still healing those blister scabs. To care for the eye that was so close to those blisters I haven’t worn my contacts for days on end. Being in a blurry world isn’t so bad when I have no place to go. My close up vision is good, and curling up with a book on the couch was my main pre-occupation last week. I read two 600 page novels — the first two books of the Wheel of Time series by Robert Jordan. I’m prepped for the TV show that comes out later this month.

There are lots of gifts in this experience.

My mom is a gift.
Friend support is a gift.
Book reading time is a gift.
Blurry world, pajama days are a gift.
A reminder that everything can wait and be delayed and it’s okay that it is… that’s a gift.

Thank you, shingles.

Everything that comes can contribute to me if I allow and receive.

That doesn’t mean what comes is easy.
It doesn’t mean it’s fair or fun or right either…
It simply is.

Life shows up as it does. I can deny it, fight it, pretend it’s not happening…

Or I can embrace what is here. Receive it. Let it grow me, change me, and reveal more to me about me. That’s what Life is about.

I don’t have all the answers, but I get better and better at recognizing the attitude and posture that serves me best, as well as the attitudes and postures that don’t.

It serves me to embrace what’s here, appreciate, reach out for connection, be in awe of my experience, and have a sense of humor. Maybe not 100% of the time, but enough of the time of being in those energies, and I’m guided more gently through the waves of feeling everything else I feel.

Ultimately I can welcome it all, even the breakdowns.

Whatever challenges you’re experiencing this month, be gentle with yourself as you navigate them. Feeling humbled or slowed, stopped or redirected is part of the experience of Life. Reach out for support, and keep connected with others who can love you through it all, so you can stay open in your heart and mind. Also, look for the blessings. They’re there too.

I’m leading the annual daily Abundance class, starting Wednesday. I’ve taught this class every year in some variation or another since 2012. It’s a favorite because it’s so needed. Scarcity creeps up in our consciousness too easily, but possibility and plenty is a much greater reality to create from, and it’s ours to cultivate and practice.

Join in the class or book session time with me as you need. I’m here for you.


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Who are you being in relation to what’s here in your life?

Posted on 28 October 2021

So much of conscious living is about the inner game: who am I being in relation to what’s here in my life?

I can fight what’s here…
I can resist what’s here…
I can be defensive or reactive about what’s here…
I can even ignore or deny it all (for at least a little while).

Or I can be very present with what’s here, receive it, and create with it.

Tune in. Feel where you are tensing up, fighting or controlling. Soften. Relax.

About some specific aspect of your life experience right now, ask:

What is here?
What wants to happen here?
What does ‘what wants to happen here’ want from me?

Sometimes it takes courage to fully open our eyes to see and sense what’s here. It might be uncomfortable. It might bring with it a flood of emotion — tears, anger, sadness, despair or joy. It will not kill you to be with the truth of even uncomfortable circumstances. It will actually lead you to clarity, power and wholeness.

No matter what’s unfolding in your life, remind yourself:

More is happening here than I can see.
There is a way through this.
Something can be created out of this that is greater than what I have known before.

Don’t let your circumstances make you hard. The awareness of what to do or how to be will arise — sometimes slowly, sometimes in a sudden spark of insight. Perhaps, like me, your clarity arises as spontaneous insights in the shower, when you’re driving, or in the soft light of morning. Inner guidance comes when we’re relaxed and present enough to receive it.

If you could use support in that, that’s what sessions are for!  Schedule a consultation if we haven’t worked together before. Or join a class and have the support of group coaching and energetic practices that help you BE with what’s here in your life. November’s class, Abundance, is a daily practice in shifting out of scarcity into plenty. Details HERE.


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What’s truly important?

Posted on 30 September 2021

As we reach the end of September, I hope you’re feeling good. I hope you’re feeling smart and capable, and keeping perspective as you look at what’s here in your life this fall.

There’s a great deal in this crazy world that you have no control over. Honestly, you’re in control of hardly anything. But you have many many layers of choice, and that’s worth remembering. Most importantly, you have choice over your attention and intention, which is no small thing.

The problem is, it’s easy to get out of sync with yourself — distracted by the minutia, steamrolled by the day, overrun by other people’s energies or desires — and to walk forward foggy and unclear.

It’s super important to create space for yourself. Space to see, hear, know, observe. Even personal space to have a bit of a buffer so you can feel your own feelings.

You can take breaks. Lift your head. Get up and move. Breathe.

You can also take space to consider. You don’t have to know the answer right away. Despite any perceived pressure, you don’t have to decide what’s a yes or a no for you in the moment. You don’t have to communicate under pressure. Sometimes the best clarity comes after a good night’s sleep or a long shower or a few minutes meditating. You can wait for that clarity.

Also, create space for yourself by remembering the bigger picture. Where you are right now is just where you are right now. In the grand scheme of things, not everything on your plate is even going to be remembered down the road. Some things are important, for sure. But not everything is. Not everything needs to be your last stand or your biggest battle.

Live in questions like these:

What’s truly important? 
What’s my highest intention here? 
Who do I desire to be in this situation? 
What energy do I desire to lead with? 
What guidance is my inner wisdom giving me?

When you live in question, awareness comes.  It will focus your attention and bring forth clarity of intention. That’s how you create most potently and with ease.

Book sessions when you need. Join October’s class series, Ease, Flow & Personal Power, if you could use some re-alignment (details below). Reach out for what supports you.


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Every so often, re-evaluate

Posted on 12 September 2021

It’s good to slow down every so often to re-evaluate.

Where am I headed? Am I on course? Do I still want what I have been aiming for?

If you do, great! Tap back into that vision. Feel again what you’re excited to be creating. Let it energize you.

If you don’t, that’s good information too. Sometimes we’ve changed so much we have new desires. Sometimes we’ve reached where we wanted to be, and it’s time for a new vision. It’s important to honor that.

It’s always wise to slow down enough to listen within before you plot a new course. Ask yourself some big questions about what you truly want and truly value. Listen to your heart and your spirit.

You might need to shake off some negativity and step out of some limiting points of view. You might need to remind yourself that you have a right to grow, change and reach for more. We need to do this, for ourselves and our world — stay agile, be resilient, dream better dreams.

Slowing down to get clear and aligned, actually speeds things up. The more we are clear and aligned, the easier our path unfolds.

Sit with your journal and do some visioning, or join me next weekend for the Fall Visioning Workshop I’m offering via zoom. If it’s hard for you to sit and focus, you’re not alone! The energy of a guide and a group can help a lot! Mostly, I’m excited to offer this workshop as an opportunity to step out of default mode into choice, out of stagnancy into new life. If you need that, come play!

There’s always outer work to do to create something new in your life, but the inner work comes first.

To that end, I’m here for you.


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Three ways you can work with me…

Posted on 29 August 2021

It’s back to school season for students, and perhaps for you, there’s a sense of new focus and groundedness coming in too. Are you ready to engage again with some of those aspects of your life you might have been putting aside this summer?

When you’re ready for sessions, here are three ways you can work with me one-on-one:

You can schedule Coaching Sessions at your convenience. Talk through all that’s up, from business to relationships to your heart’s desires. Together we look at it all —sometimes strategizing, sometimes problem solving, but always seeking your clarity and inner alignment so that the actions you will take unfold with ease. Purchase a series of 4 sessions for $500.

You can commit to monthly Spirit Sessions with me to tend to your spiritual growth. We sink deep in these sessions, listening, healing, following the energy and allowing higher wisdom and guidance to come through. As we remember the spiritual principles you hold true, you align within and cultivate greater trust in Life and in yourself. These sessions are $125 a month with a 6 month commitment.

You can book a Deep Dive Half Day when you’re facing a big project or need to unravel and prioritize many aspects of your career or business. Laying it all out in a digital creation board, we map out the facets and brainstorm. Often in these sessions, there is so much to be acknowledged and explored in the first hours, but in the last hour, the genius idea or inspired clarity turns on like a light bulb.  $500 gives you a half day of coaching plus 2 short follow up sessions in the weeks after.

If you’d like that — someone to help you sort through the thoughts, emotions and energies of your life– I’d be honored to work with you.

Click HERE to schedule a consultation this week. No pressure, no sales — just a conversation to get to know each other. We’ll discuss your needs, desires, payment options and logistics, so you can feel into the possibilities and choose what’s best for you.

NOTE: If we have worked together before, my session calendar is always open for you: http://tinyurl.com/session-with-jessica. For Deep Dive Half Days, email me at jess@jessicacolp.com to schedule a chunk of time that works for both of us.


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How do you talk to yourself?

Posted on 18 August 2021

I haven’t met anyone who doesn’t have an inner critic voice of judgement that is unkind and unreasonable. We all do! Perhaps yours was installed from influencing voices of your childhood, or from life experiences where you felt yourself not measuring up or making mistakes. It’s so very human of us to struggle with maintaining an accurate, balanced and healthy view of who we are.

I think that most of us have a sincere desire to be good. Mix that with a compulsion to be right and not wrong, and we can get paranoid about where we fall on the spectrum.

The only escape I know for that is to soften into self-acceptance and recognize that I show up all over the spectrum of good/bad, right/wrong, and that is part of the sweet and complex experience of being alive on planet earth.

When I allow myself space to be all that I am, I find that it’s okay that…

…I am good at some things, not at other things.
…I sometimes operate with a high level of rightness, while other times I am flat out wrong.
…I often measure up to other people’s expectations, but not always.
…I am both kind and nice and well-intentioned, as well as selfish and oblivious and surprisingly judgmental.
…I am capable of seeing some things clearly and other things take me years to comprehend.

And all of these truths are part of me being human. It’s okay that I am this AND that.

Does it help for you to remember this for yourself? To give yourself a little more room and grace to be whoever and whatever you are?

There may be a part of you that is afraid to let yourself off the hook and be okay with yourself. That’s normal too. But give it a try!

You have more choice, space and awareness when you relax. Much more than when you hold yourself in judgment.

We’re over half way through the daily practice class I’m teaching this month, called I Am Enough. One of the big things we’ve been exploring over the past two weeks is how we talk to ourselves. I offered the class an assignment to create a new script of inner dialogue and turn it into a voice recording for themselves to listen to over and over as a way to cultivate a new inner voice — one that is healthy and honoring.

Try out these statements:

…I am enough. Whatever I got done today is enough.
…I am interesting and complex and I don’t have to be perfect. All I have to be is me.
…I make sense. My responses make sense.
…I’m changing and growing and learning, and wherever I am on the learning curve is good.
…I make mistakes and that’s okay. Everyone does. I accept myself as I am.
…I aim for authenticity and truth, not perfection.

You don’t have to inflate yourself with over the top statements of positivity. Aim for statements that are true, neutral and easy for yourself to believe. Make your new self-talk warm and kind. Give yourself space to be imperfect, and speak to yourself with a tone that calms your nervous system so you can relax and be present with what is.

You are enough. You were enough yesterday. You will be enough tomorrow.

If this is a growth edge for you, I do recommend purchasing this class. It’s been very satisfying to dive into multiple layers of a conversation about enoughness and wholeness. If you register now, you can join us for the last week of live classes, and have immediate access to previous recordings.

I also invite you to work with me in sessions. You lay out what you’re struggling with, and we talk it through together to the place where you have more peace and clarity.

I also have a free community sharing circle next week that you’re invited to. The topic this month is perfectionism.

Details for all offerings are below. Meanwhile, be kind to yourself. It’s a strange and wonderful experience to be you, alive in 2021, living a life that no one has lived before. Enjoy it, and create it to suit you.

I know that’s possible.


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Who and what you are — it’s enough.

Posted on 4 August 2021

Has anyone told you lately that you’re amazing just as you are?
That even if you make mistakes, you’re still cool?
That you don’t have to DO anything to be loveable?

Do YOU speak to yourself with that level of unconditional acceptance and warmth?

Practice affirming “I am enough, just as I am” and see what changes in your world.

Of course, I know you aren’t perfect and that you do make mistakes. This is the truth of all of us.

I also know that the more you accept yourself without judgment and remember that you are inherently enough just as you are, the less you need other people to validate you and the healthier all your relationships become.

That, of course, is some deep work of inner alignment! It’s also a foundational practice of confidence, ease and healthy self-esteem. And, I invite you into it with me…

I AM ENOUGH: a 22 day practice in living from wholeness begins Thursday, August 5.

Read more HERE or simply say YES and join us. It’s $144 and includes all recordings.

P.S. 22 day classes are one of my biggest joys to offer because of how layered and nuanced our conversation becomes over the course of three weeks of practice. It’s one thing to talk about principles of healthy self esteem. It’s another to practice them! That’s what this class is for — deep and practical shifts that YOU choose. I’d love to have you join us!


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