Okay, Universe, how is this a gift?

Posted on 14 July 2020

We’re never completely in control of what unfolds for us, but we always have choice about how we be with it. That’s a truth I’m remembering over and over again this year — how about you?

In mid-June, water began flooding from my upstairs neighbor’s bathroom into mine every time my neighbor took a shower. Obviously, that was a pretty big problem.

After freaking out a bit, I began asking, “Okay, Universe, how is THIS a gift?”

Then I calmed down, softened, and let the powers that be work it out for me.

As it turned out, I got a birthday vacation a few miles away in a super nice hotel room for almost two weeks — all arranged for me by my apartment management. I wouldn’t have chosen the experience of plumbing problems, but I can tell you — the more I relaxed about it, the more it worked out for me!  I loved my hotel, I loved the pool, I loved the proximity to new restaurants and the change of scenery after months of being quarantined in my apartment.

At the end of June, I moved back home refreshed and grateful, and honestly marveling at the gift of it all. Then, three days later water poured through my bathroom ceiling again!

What?!

Okay. Again, just because I have a good attitude about something, doesn’t mean I’m in control of how or when it resolves. What I am in control of is how I BE with what shows up. So, back to the question. I continued to ask — how is THIS a gift to me?

This time, I stayed home as workers came in and out of my apartment — cutting out wet walls, examining the pipes, and doing the repair work. I wasn’t thrilled with the disturbance, but then again, it was more activity in my apartment than I’ve had for months! And that was also weirdly refreshing. Men coming in and out every single day!? I let myself enjoy that. Truly. It added some pep to my single lady’s vibe.

Things come up. They just do.

We can resist, or we can flow.
We can complain, or we can go to question.
We can be mad, or we can be amused.
And always, we can lean in, receive what’s here and create with it.

It’s not always easy to relax enough to let Life work things out for you, but it is something you can practice and become really good at.

Live from the principle that everything that shows up can be a gift to you. Even when you can’t see how, ask, and stay open. If you’re feeling sassy, ask your question as a dare to the Universe — “Alright, Universe, this is a doozy! Show me! How is EVEN THIS a gift to me?”

Then BE the person who receives it as a gift.

P.S. Flowing with life doesn’t mean you always smile and nod to what’s there. Sometimes flowing means going with a wave of emotion and letting your voice roar! That’s on the table too. The path of least resistance can only be felt from the inside, and it requires that you be present and aware. If you could use help with that, book some sessions. I’m here for you.


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Notice when you shut down or contract… and choose again.

Posted on 11 June 2020

We’re in an important experience of change in our nation right now. Personally, I’m so excited to witness and participate in this revolution of consciousness. Black Lives Matter. Justice and equality matters. Healing racism matters. A continuation of the Civil Right Movement is over-due and highly needed. And, as with any revolutionary movement, it is unfolding with intensity. Marches, demonstrations, videos of violence and police brutality, op-eds, news stories, and demands for reform… it’s a lot!

Over these next days and weeks you may want to check out or turn away. It’s hard to stay present to abuse and trauma for too long, yet waking up to inequality and injustice and the consequences of racism is our call right now. And we can do this.

Instead of avoiding that call, simply notice that you may sometimes shut down.

Check yourself in these moments:

Is my heart open or closed?
Is my mind open or closed?
Am I clinging to the status quo of yesterday, or am I willing to create a better world?
Am I in limitation or possibility?

Noticing when you shut down or contract is huge.
Noticing it means you aren’t unconscious.

You may not be able to shift immediately from contraction to expansion, but noticing your state of being gives you perspective and choice.

This is important right now.

Commit to being conscious.

Let me remind you: You are a person who is drawn to possibility. You are a person who loves to live in question. You have an incredible capacity to love and learn and grow. Your heart can expand so big, it takes in everyone. You can answer Life’s call to change and evolve. And you can do so jubilantly.

Open.
Expansive.
Hopeful.
Powerful.
Creative.
Visionary.

This is you, if you choose. Anchor in these energies and they’ll guide you to action.

When you need support and clarity, reach out for sessions. I’m here for you.

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P.S. Change requires a shift in consciousness. Last week I mentioned I’m reading How to be Anti-Racist by Ibram X. Kendi. Many of my friends are reading it with me. Perhaps you want to start your own friend’s circle to discuss and grow together. I’m happy to send you more book suggestions (just ask!), or if books aren’t your thing, but movies are, sit down with friends and family and watch Selma, Just Mercy, and 13th. Lean in, learn and grow.


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When things are tumultuous…

Posted on 1 June 2020

Welcome to June! I have no idea what this month is going to be like, but I’m looking over my shoulder at May in awe. I didn’t forsee the month ending in such a revolutionary moment for our nation.

Though it feels tumultuous, I am grateful that so many people have been galvanized to action by the murder of George Floyd and are demanding change. Sometimes, lulled by our normal routines, it’s too easy to forget that — we CAN create a greater world.

We can redefine priorities.
We can transform systems.
We can say no to injustice.
We can take to the streets (literally and metaphorically) and work through our grief and rage collectively and individually.
We can look at our own responsibility for what is here, and we can take action so that something different is created.

Does this bring up a lot of feelings in you? If so, you’re not alone. The whole nation is feeling a lot right now. That is part of the process.

It’s important to be present to what is here now.
It’s important to be in the question of what else can be created.

Finding your balance between those is not a formula.  It’s something to practice and feel into moment by moment, day by day. When you notice that you’ve clicked into current reality too much, zoom out and take a higher perspective.  When you notice that you’re floating too far out or you’re not being present to the experience of now, bring yourself back and soften your heart to feel what is here.

Somewhere in that practice you become the bridge to greater realities.

There is so much in our personal and collective worlds that is ripe for change and transformation.  Old normals have passed away and as we step forward and create again, may we do so with wisdom, integrity, and clear vision.

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P.S. I’m reading How to be Anti-Racist by Ibram X. Kendi. It’s brilliant, important, and the book I am sharing with all my friends. Check it out.


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When you trust yourself and Life, everything is different

Posted on 12 May 2020

If these past couple of months have been an emotional roller-coaster, or have tested your stress levels in ways you didn’t expect, I totally understand. The uncertainty and change we’ve been experiencing in this season of Corona is big!⠀

First we had very little information.⠀
Then we had contradictory information.⠀
And we’re not through it!⠀

Who do you trust?⠀
What do you trust?⠀
What is the basis of trust in unprecedented times?⠀

Over the last decade, my friend Julie Elizabeth Day and I have worked one-on-one with clients through all kinds of change and uncertainty. Whether your experience of change is small or big, personal or global, a little inconvenient or completely disruptive to your reality, we know this: ⠀

You can trust yourself.⠀
You can trust Life.⠀
You can cultivate a sense of deep inner peace, that will carry you through even the craziest of circumstances.⠀

We know this so deeply, we want to share it with you.⠀

So, we’ve got a FREE 5 Day Virtual Class Series for you, called “I TRUST!” and we’d love to have you join us! Register HERE.⠀

Our aim in this series is to guide you gently to a greater trust in your inner knowing, a greater trust in the flow of life, and a greater sense of safety in this uncertain world.⠀

If you could use some of that, sign up!
(Link in comments below)⠀

We meet Monday through Friday (May 18 – 22) at 1pm Pacific / 4pm Eastern on Zoom. ⠀

If you can’t attend live, register anyway, and we’ll send you a link to each day’s recording. ⠀

We want you to be steady, calm, and clear from the inside out. When you live from that space, everything in your word changes… for the better!⠀


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Hold yourself gently and let yourself change

Posted on 11 May 2020

How are you doing? Are you well? Are you holding steady? ⠀

I desire that for you. ⠀

Some of my clients almost sheepishly tell me how happy they’ve been over these past weeks. They’ve found themselves grateful to be at home, to slow down, to have everything change. If that’s been your experience, embrace it! ⠀

Some of my clients have been courageously facing their anxiety and fear. They’ve been witnessing their concern for the future and mistrust of authority, and as they face these shadows, a beautiful healing is happening within them. If that’s been your experience, embrace that too! ⠀

Wherever you find yourself on the spectrum of experience, be at peace with yourself. ⠀

It’s okay not to know much right now.⠀
It’s okay to not have a plan or even a vision of the future.⠀
It’s okay to feel what you feel.⠀

Hold yourself gently and let yourself change in these times of change. Invite this great pause to be an experience of great transformation in your life. If you’ll receive it as such, it will be that for you.⠀

If you need support, book a session. I’m here for you. ⠀


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Fear is not your compass.

Posted on 14 April 2020

What’s the opposite of fear? What does it feel like?

I asked my EVERY DAY group of about this, and they gave me these words: expansiveness, trust, harmony, openness, softness, acceptance, vulnerability, spaciousness, awareness, curiosity, joy, perception, eagerness, assurance, trust, relaxation, possibility, learning, calm, serenity, knowing, confidence, contentment…

Those words feel good to me, even to type.

Read the list again. Feel the energy of these words in your body.

The more acquainted you are with THOSE energies, the more they become your ground of being.

Fear is going to come up, at times. Anxiety and contraction will move through you. You don’t have to resist it. But don’t take it too seriously, and don’t lean into it as your compass. The space beyond fear is where you’ll access the wisdom and inspiration that will guide you to create more through this time and beyond it.

When you’re soft and curious, trusting and open, you intuitively perceive the way forward.

What is being reset in you during this time of quarantine?
What gift is this time to you?
What new possibilities are going to be here for you after this pandemic is over?

No need to find answers to those questions. Just live in them. Let the inquiry open a space for reset and receiving, thriving and possibility.

]I trust that no matter what happens to the economy you can thrive. I trust that no matter what falls away in your life, there is a gift in the change. I trust your capacity to receive even these circumstances, rise above the fear, and feel your way forward.

If you need help accessing that space, book some sessions. And if you’d like to join the EVERY DAY group in daily meditation and remembering, I’d love to have you.


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How can I support you?

Posted on 6 April 2020

Some of my clients are doing shorter, more frequent sessions with me during this pandemic season.⠀⁣
Others that have worked with me for years by phone are now meeting me via FaceTime.⠀⁣
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Maybe you could use the space to process anxiety or waves of feeling.⠀⁣
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Maybe you’re being asked to rise to new levels of leadership and you want to check your intentions and get aligned before you take action.⠀⁣
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Maybe you are drawn to sessions for the extra dose of kindness and compassion that we generate together. ⠀⁣
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That’s what sessions are for. ⠀⁣
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You lay it all out. We look at it together. We ask questions. ⠀⁣
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We check into your higher knowing. We follow the lightness to more clarity and greater vision. ⠀⁣
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You walk away even-keeled, grounded and brighter.⠀⁣
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If you want to put me on your Quaranteam, I’m here for you. ⠀⁣
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Schedule a time with me to chat about what you need and how I can support you.


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What’s this time like for you?

Posted on 2 April 2020

Here we are in the time of quarantine, with our best laid plans for 2020 on pause. It’s all a lot to process, isn’t it?

What’s this like for you?

I recognize that there is no ‘one size fits all’ experience to quarantine. Some of my clients are working more intensely than ever keeping us healthy and fed and continuing to educate children and teach classes. Some are at home with nothing to do for the first time in years. Some are cloistered with family members, some are alone, and many are attending more zoom meetings than they could have imagined.

What we all share in common during this time is that this is a change. Our patterns and routines have been disturbed. We haven’t experienced this before. And we’re going to emerge from this different.

Can you let this be an inner reset for you?

What might you discover about yourself in this time that you are out of your patterns and default modes?

If you’re not feeling super productive now, please don’t beat yourself up.
If you’re sleeping a lot, embrace the chance to rest.
If you’re feeling waves of grief, let it flow and cleanse you.
If you’re finding yourself in fear or anxiety, be especially gentle with yourself, and reach out for help as needed.

Let yourself be human.

We’re still at the beginning of this experience.

Remember to breathe. Remember that this too shall pass. Remember that everything, everything, everything can be received as a gift when you soften to receive it.

And, even as you stay quarantined, don’t let yourself feel isolated. I’m here. Your family and friends and co-workers and community are still here. You might just find yourself with deeper connections and community at the end of this than you could have imagined.

I wish that for you.

I also wish to support you, as you need. I sent a survey out to clients last week and the overwhelming request in the time of quarantine was a daily practice class.  So I created it!  EVERY DAY in the time of quarantine you are welcome to come meditate with me, receive an uplifting class, and connect with community. Read more here.

Also, some clients said they desired more frequent, short sessions of support. Others wanted Facetime calls. Those are easy requests! If you want to put me on your Quaranteam, schedule a chat with me and and we’ll come up with a plan that suits you.

Again, stay soft. Let something beautiful be created within you even as you stay home.

 


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Who’s on your quaranteam?

Posted on 23 March 2020

Who’s on your QUARANTEAM?
(I encountered this new word word today, and I like it!)

Who’s on your QUARANTEAM?

(I encountered this new word word today, and I like it!)

If you’re home with family or housemates, cool! They’re definitely on your quaranteam.
But if you’re home alone in social isolation, that doesn’t mean you need to feel alone.

Reach out and strengthen your connections with people who matter to you.

Where are your loved ones at?
Who have you not checked in with for a while, that you can rekindle connection with now?
Whose voices and energy will uplift and inspire you during this time?
Who do you want to surround yourself with?

I kind of think of it like — who do you want on your island? 

As I see it, this is a time to reassess our values.
If connection is one of yours, like it is mine, activate it.
Pull your quaranteam in place.

Put loved ones and friends on it, and also add some support for you.

You can do coaching, healing sessions, therapy, game nights, family reunions, church services, dance classes, fitness bootcamps, and book clubs virtually. And they can be just as, or even more, meaningful to you than ever.

Simply get creative.

I’m on many people’s QUARANTEAM. Currently, my clients are meeting me for the coolest sessions — sessions that are relevant and reality shifting. People who work with me know they don’t have to be be in anxiety no matter what’s going on. They reach out to talk it out, to use the tools that keep them steady and sane, to stay true and authentic, and to meet themselves in deep dives of growth and healing.

When you need that support, have it. Book some sessions. I’m here.

 


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Some part of you is prepared for this…

Posted on 19 March 2020

I really think I’d be a good scavenger/hunter/gatherer for supplies in times of apocalypse. A part of me wants to be out scouting each day to see what stores are open and what supplies are available and then come back to my village to report. Like ‘The Walking Dead’ kind of survival mode — I got that within me.⁣ How about you?

But — deep breath — considering that it’s just me and my cat that I’m looking out for, I’m reining this part in.⁣

I’ve got other skills that are actually more relevant right now.⁣

They’re softer skills of energy and consciousness, asking questions, and choosing from within. In immediate fear and panic mode, these skills seem less relevant, but actually they aren’t.⁣

I know how to create space to acknowledge my fear, be kind with it… and not give up power to it.⁣

I know how to create space for possibility by asking questions that open my awareness, instead of trying to solve immediate problems from contraction and low vibes.⁣

I know how to generate new realities and how to be with other realities without conflict or resistance.⁣

What do you know?⁣

What have you practiced in other times of your life that you’d do good to remember and bring to the forefront now?⁣

I KNOW you’ve got some inner strengths that will resource you through these days…⁣

Take an inner inventory and tell me what you find.⁣

You’re more prepared for this than you think.

I can easily create the space of ‘no fear’ with you. I can sit with you, even in a pandemic, and help you access possibilities and generate realities that work better for you and everyone else too.⁣ If you could use some of that, I’ve got it in spades. Reach out and book some sessions.⁣


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