Did anyone ever tell you that it’s okay to like yourself?

Posted on 12 June 2019

How are you feeling about yourself?

On a scale of 1 – 10, where’s your self-esteem at?

Do you like you?

See, I ask this, because I know that when you DO like you, you’re far more resilient and life is easier.

I keep catching my clients in low self-esteem patterns. When they are excessively apologetic, lingering in self-doubt, shrinking back in the face of conflict/disagreement/accusation, or thinking poorly of themselves, I’m pretty good at calling it out — that’s low self-esteem. And it’s not necessary!

If someone else doesn’t like you, or is unhappy with you, or thinks you are doing something wrong, you could just receive that as information, not as devastation.

If things are not going the direction you wanted, that doesn’t mean you did anything wrong, but it IS information that will guide you.

Get it?

You don’t have to feel other people’s opinions or messy life circumstances as an indictment of you — it’s just life, it’s just opinions, it’s just information.

Do you perceive that neutrality?

As I see it, you can only have that neutrality if you’re not already in the hole with yourself. A healthy self esteem lets you be there: observing, receiving, playing with all the energies of your life.

Maybe you weren’t TOLD that you were awesome, often enough.

Maybe you didn’t know that your most powerful place was inside of you — centered and confident.

Maybe you were encouraged to give yourself up for other people, to listen to outside voices as your authority, to step outside of your place of power over and over and over… until it became your norm.

But you can choose again. Stop it. Choose for just a moment to access the energy of self-respect, self-centeredness, and self-confidence. And then what do you know?

I know — it takes practice, as consciousness does. But also, with my clients, when I point out that they are exhibiting low self-esteem and I ask them to step into healthy self esteem for a moment — they can and they do!

Even a moment of self-respect, a power pose, a breath to re-center to YOUR truth can change everything.

Try it. Repattern yourself.

You can also book sessions with me about this. Or you can sign up for the upcoming class, inspired by this topic – it’s called Audaciously You! and it’s a 4 week class to up level your self-esteem that starts June 18.

Details HERE. I’d love have you join!

 


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Summer Coaching Special!

Posted on 4 June 2019

Need a breakthrough, a plan, a change of direction? You can have that!

Choose my SUMMER COACHING SPECIAL and receive…!

:::: A VIP Day ::::

Sit down with me for a full morning or afternoon of coaching. I’ll get out the paper and pens. You’ll lay it ALL out for us to look at.

💥 Together we’ll ask the big questions and seek the highest view.
💥 We’ll look at the things you’ve avoided, face the parts that are scary, and dissipate those limiting beliefs that keep you stuck.
💥 We’ll vision. We’ll follow the energy into greater possibility, joy, ease and freedom.
💥 We’ll bring your body into it.
💥 And we’ll activate that new reality you’re more than ready for.

Yes, it’ll be intense, but it will also be fun! 🌈

:::::: Plus 3 Support Sessions :::::

After our VIP day, you’ll have the energy and the focus, and then you’ll need to LIVE it. Use your follow up sessions to keep tapping back into the new reality you’re asking for, to tweak your focus, and to energize you for aligned action.

These sessions as 40 minutes by phone or zoom to be used over the rest of your summer. Additional sessions can be purchased as needed.

 

Did I create this package for you? If so, receive it!

 

VIP Half Day
+ 3 follow up sessions

$597

 

Note: I’m offering ten of these packages this summer. Once they’re gone, they’re gone. And no, the price will never be lower!


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Do you know what you’re aiming for?

Posted on 29 May 2019

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Where in your life do you not feel free?

Posted on 19 May 2019

Did you know that I’m offering one day workshops at my home in Glendale twice a month?

Part of my vision this year has been to create more space for in person gatherings — in addition to the phones sessions and online class I offer.  Sometimes we need to connect face to face, eye to eye, and bring our bodies into our work.

In these workshops, you have the space to clear your head, become more present to what’s really sticking you, and then experiment with choice.

You enter the question: What energy can I embody, that if I embody, will change this whole dynamic?

Together we help you find that energy, BE it, and walk out the door as THAT!

From there, everything is different.  There’s ease, flow, and dynamics in your life change as if by magic.

Can you tell how much I love this work?

This month’s workshop is House of Liberation.  I invite you to come play!

Saturday, May 25 from 10am – 4pm in the Glendale area of Los Angeles.

Is there an area of your life in which you feel imprisoned, stuck, or like you have no choice?  Have any people in your life who feel like your personal jailor?

If you’re feeling less than free in ANY area of your life, bring it to the House of Liberation and workshop it with me. Read more HERE and register.

Note: These workshops are high level VIP group coaching days with 4 participants maximum.  If you don’t make it to this one, stay tuned for next month’s.


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Some people complain, others appreciate.

Posted on 16 May 2019

Quick tool — ask yourself, “what reality am I choosing right now?”

Is it a reality of joy or lack? Cheerfulness or grumpiness? Having or not having?

Already today I’ve talked to three clients who opened their conversation with me with a celebration of the rain we’re getting in LA today. “It’s beautiful.” “It feels so soft and sweet this morning”. “I like this rain.”

They could have also led with a complaint about rain in May, or grumbling that it’s been a while since we had a warm and sunny day. That was the conversation that filled the room at my pilates class last night. It set a very different tone.

Get this? You can approach anything as a gift or a wrongness. Your choice. Your reality.

What reality are YOU in?

There are MANY realities operating simultaneously in your vicinity. The person next to you could be in a reality of wrongness, blame and shame. The person across the aisle from you could be in a reality of gratitude and appreciation for the little things going right. These two people will have very different days, based on what they are choosing to perceive. They might experience the same events, but they’ll experience them differently! And life will create with them according to the tone THEY are setting.

You’ve got that choice too. Catch yourself when you’re in a reality of lack, or poverty, or victimhood.

Rise up. Choose again.

This takes practice. If you want to get better at pivoting out of a low vibe into a creative vibe, you can! You can get REALLY good at that and your whole life will change accordingly.

Put up a sticky note — What reality am I in? Catch yourself at choice points. Shift your focus, your attitude and/or your attention and change your experience.

And if you want a partner in that, I’m here! Book a session or take a class with me. We grow better together.

 


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Are you simply coping? Or are you tending to your dreams?

Posted on 15 May 2019

Are you dreaming of greater or so caught in survival mode that you’re mainly coping?
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I know you have things to tend to, and many aspects of your world require your attention, but also… if you forget to lift your head and see the bigger picture, you lose perspective and your world shrinks to the size of your problems.
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Expand your gaze. Look beyond what’s here. Breathe life into your dreams. Grow bigger.
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You lay it all out. I ask you big questions. You wake up to greater possibilities.
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That’s the work.
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Curiosity. Perspective. Growth.
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Ease. Joy. Miracles.

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You can change anything, if you’ll change yourself

Posted on 3 May 2019

Yesterday I had a headache that was really distracting (as pain tends to be!). Amazingly, I caught myself in the experience, and realized — I could focus on the pain, and it would probably get worse, or I could reach for a different energy and I might be able to change my whole day. Choosing option 2, I called a friend to help: “Talk me through this please! Ask me questions. Help me get to a different reality.” He did.

What is the energy of the headache? Pressure and overwhelm.
What would you like to feel instead? Freedom, ease, a feeling of confidence and choice.

Okay. So, I acknowledged the pain and the pressure, then with him helping me focus, I purposefully crawled my way towards a different energy. I reached for the feeling of confidence and choice. I relaxed my mind to find a sense of ease and softness. I remembered what it is to feel great in my body.  As I did this, I changed my energy, and that shifted everything. The headache dissipated.

Better than an Advil, I’ll tell you. And it took less than ten minutes.

Now, I know you’ve done this in your life too.

It’s how in the past you’ve changed your experience. When you were broke or struggling with money problems, you somehow shifted your energy and from there your money situation changed. When you were in conflict with another person, you somehow found a different way of being and created peace. When you were miserable at work, you eventually shifted something inside yourself and your situation changed.

Sometimes we forget that the change actually takes place inside of us first, but it does.

We change what we are being, what we are focused on, what we are feeling, and THEN the experience changes.

Inner realities are the source of outer circumstances.

Sometimes we change our inner state by totally surrendering. Sometimes we do it by pivoting. Sometimes we do it by hanging around with different people who have a different energy. Sometimes we do it by going outside, spending time in nature, getting dressed up, or eating a good meal. Whatever it takes, Friends!

An energy shift within you creates a different reality! And whatever you can choose to create that shift — choose it! For me, yesterday, it was the conversation with a friend that helped. On another day, it might be something else.

Out of lack, despair, and limitation, into choice, possibility and ease…. that’s the journey.

Often we need help shifting our inner reality — that’s why people book sessions with me. Also, we can practice shifting energy when it’s not so hard, so that we remember how to do it when our experience is more intense. That’s what I create classes for — practice and tools!

Acknowledge what you’re emanating that’s creating your experience and choose again. That’s the simplest formula I know for change.

Try it on something today and tell me what happens!

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In May I’m offering a 22 day practice class called “I Am Rich!”. If you’ve been in lack and scarcity, it takes some focus to shift your internal state to abundance, but you can do it! Come practice with me. I’ve also got two one day-workshops to help you embody the energy of Freedom in any area of your life that you’ve been feeling like you’re stuck. And of course I’m always available to you for sessions.


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Five books I’m recommending to clients this spring

Posted on 9 April 2019

Read any good books lately? I have!

I love learning, stretching my mind, and staying up on the latest ideas so that I’m current and ready for anything my clients bring to the table. I listen to about a dozen books a month on Audible. Below are a few of my recent favorites.

Here are five books I can’t stop talking about:

  • Atomic Habits: Tiny Changes, Remarkable Results by James Clear looked boring to me at first, but it wasn’t! It was surprisingly delightful! Clear reminds us that we are what we do. We become who we are by our habits. Want to be a healthy person? Make healthy choices over and over again. Want to be a creative person? Sit down and create on the regular. The book helped me gratefully acknowledge all the habits I have that make me a person I like to be. It also had me asking: what other tiny actions can do daily that will create big results in my life?
  • Co-Active Leadership: Five Ways to Lead by Karen Kimsey-House and Henry Kimsey-House is a short but power packed book that will remind you of the different ways you can show up as a leader in your world. You can lead from behind, from in front, from beside, from within and from the field. With super practical tips and examples in here. I’d say this is a good book for anyone who feels a bit of slump in their passion at work. Stop slumping, start leading. Your openness, kindness and shared humanity is at the heart of it all, and it’s good to be reminded of that.
  • The Story-Tellers Secret: from TED speakers to Business Legends by Carmine Gallo is packed with stories! It’s a good book for people interested in inspiring new behaviors in the world. How do you change culture? Extend invitations to change? Market your business or product? Lead people to a new possibility? Get clear on what story you are telling, and tell it well. We all have a chance to tell stories. In fact, the way we tell stories shapes our lives in more ways than you might think. Do you recognize what story you are telling and living? This book will inspire you to frame your stories with more consciousness and power.
  • Girl, Stop Apologizing by Rachel Hollis just came out this winter, and has a message I’d love to share with every woman I know. Ladies, for many reasons, we as women tend to think less of ourselves that we ought. We compare ourselves with others, we look to external sources for validation, we measure ourselves by some kind of crazy unattainable standards, and that only holds us back. As far as I’m concerned we can’t hear this message enough: you can do this, show up, learn what you need to learn, become the expert you can become, and don’t doubt yourself into oblivion.
  • Educated by Tara Westover is a memoir about a woman who was raised in an authoritarian, survivalist Mormon family. From her teenage years, through college and adulthood, she disentangles herself from the thinking of her family to discover what’s true, what’s a lie, and what’s going to work for her. This book stuck with me for so many reasons – mostly I loved how she let us witness her unraveling and becoming. It’s messy and painful to reclaim your own inner knowing from any kind of brainwashing. It’s also courageous and inspiring.

This is a diverse list, but maybe one of these titles sparks you. Giving yourself a good read is one way to feed yourself and to be well-rounded. If you try a book and don’t dig it, just return it and get another, but if you do like anything I’ve shared, I’d love to hear about it.

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P.S. Reading fiction is also good for the soul!  If you’re down for a novel, my book club read and loved The Kiss Quotient by Helen Huang, Circe by Madeline Miller, and Where the Crawdad’s Sing by Delia Owen so far this year. This month we’re reading Exit West by Mohsin Hamid. Care to join us?


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When everything changes, how do you deal?

Posted on 27 March 2019

My regular dance class on Monday night was almost cancelled this week because the building was unexpectedly shut down. Luckily, our dance leader, JP, is not a man who is stopped by things going ‘wrong’. Instead of cancelled the class, on short notice he miraculously acquired a set of silent disco headphones, and he DJed a night of dance for us outside instead. Imagine 40 of us in a park, wearing headphones with neon lights, moving our bodies in all kinds of ways to music that only we can hear.  We danced under the stars, on picnic tables, around trees, and at one point almost all of us were holding hands running through a field of grass. It was glorious!

(See my happy face after dance!)

That might not be your thing, but get this — it could have been a complaint-worthy event. It could have been a big hassle. But JP didn’t make it so. In fact, he created something amazing out of an inconvenience.

How often do your best laid plans get foiled? How often does something seemingly unfair happen in your world? How do you respond?

If you presume that what’s unfolding is either right or wrong for you, you are frequently going to experience your life going wrong! When it doesn’t line up the way you’ve determined is right, you’ll likely be the one complaining, protesting, and blaming.

But, you could also be a person who receives everything that comes as “interesting.”

This just happened. Hmmm…  
What can I do with it? What can I create out of this? How is this a gift to me?

A client of mine had her dentist cancel a tooth extraction appointment at the end of the week. First she was upset, but then she softened. From that openness, she called the dental office and got rescheduled for an earlier appointment which was even better for her and her body.

A friend of mine lost a big client last week. Instead of getting nervous and making it mean anything about his work, he took a day off, enjoyed himself, and started daydreaming about who he might work with next. A few days later an even greater client reached out wanting to hire him, and surprise — he had space!

This is how life works! Circumstances change, life rearranges, and now something else can happen. If we don’t interpret it as wrong, tragic or complaint-worthy, we have an openness that allows us to receive more and create greater.

Life beyond complaint isn’t normal, but I’ll tell you — it’s far more fun!

By the way March’s Miracles Every Day class was a practice in this. We finish day 22 tomorrow, and I highly recommend this series as a reality shifting class. You can purchase the entire series, and listen to all 22 days at your own pace.


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Stressed or overwhelmed? Book some sessions.

Posted on 12 March 2019

Sometimes life gets so busy that your vision of it all becomes blurry.
In a feeling of overwhelm, you become reactive.
In a state of stress, you start to flounder.

But no matter how busy you are, you can pause.
Book a session.
Sit with yourself and your life.
Receive it.

Together we take the view from the balcony.
We ask good questions.
We give you the space to perceive what’s really going on – in you, in others, in the circumstances of your life.

When you’re clear again, you step forward with confidence.
And you create more of what works for you (and everyone else too!).

Stress is optional.
Overwhelm is unnecessary.

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Interested in working together?

Book a free 20 minute phone consultation here:
https://my.timetrade.com/book/JC1YJ

 

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